The toilet is a private place, no?!

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I would never let my bf watch me wee and as far as he's concerned women do not poo!

So I was bloody shocked to be round my friend's house last night getting ready for a night out and she was having a poo whilst her dp was shaving. Cringe!!

Where do you all draw the line in terms of privacy?!

The only time I have pooed in front of someone was XP, just after DS was born. He helped me wobble to the loo in case I passed out, and I was fecking mortified, even though he'd just spent several days hours staring at my fanjo in a medical context and I hadn't minded that at all.

I prefer having private time for all bathroom activities. I'll often shower with DH, but won't shave/exfoliate during those times, only soap up. No weeing or pooing and I won't brush my teeth in front of him either (am one of those who can't do it without foaming at the mouth).

I chose not to have a birth partner either and I'm glad he wasn't there for that, although he would have been there if I'd asked.

We're moving soon to a house with three bathrooms and I'm reserving one all to myself .

Pooing is not to be shared! My exH used to insist on coming in and pooing when I was getting ready in the morning. I never understood why, if he was so damn desperate to poo, he didn't go into the loo before I did. He refused to wait for 5 minutes till I finished showering/brushing teeth oh the joy of brushing my teeth with the stench of his shit in the background I did try and stop him coming in once by locking the door and holding it shut, but he opened the lock from outside using a two pence piece and did a huge dump. And didn't see why he was being unreasonable.

Using the loo is a private matter. If one of us is in the bath and the other needs to wee desperately, then the bathing one shuts their eyes and sings la la la until the wee is finished. It is a rare occurrence.

The only time DH has been present when I've pooed was when I was in labour with DS.

My DH and I are total children when it comes to toilet humour - few things make us giggle more. However, I prefer him not to be in the room if I am weeing and certainly not when pooing! He will wee with me there but not poo. He also prefers to use whichever toilet is furthest from where I am so I can't hear even though I can as the walls are paper thin

I read a thread where one woman said she had been married for 10 years and wouldn't poo with her husband in the house. Serious poo issues!

I kind of envy people who are so relaxed about bodily functions...my bowels seize up if there is anyone else on the premises, never mind in the same room
One of the many reasons I live on my own!

Witchof endorI'm not sure if I'd ever recover from the trauma if someone did that to me

Actually, recently, my DH blundered into the loo while I was there knickers round my ankles and a magazine on my knee. We both screamed like wee girls. He slammed the door shut and ran away while I sat on the loo crying with laughter.

Passmethecrisps I wish I'd seen that thread, I could probably relate to that woman

I'm surprised by this! It all comes out here! Helsbels I'm trying to work out if you're talking about me there but if I do know you you hid your horror well when we discussed our toilet habits. We have lovely family time when I'm in the bath, oh is pooping and dd is kicking around on her mat after her bath
And we do the opposite too, except neither oh nor I get kicky mat time.
It's only bodily functions you know, perfectly ordinary stuff!

Aw mercury I am only relaxed about pooing in my own house. Sorry if I made you feel bad

I completely agree with the potential emotional scarring of witch. That is some intense control freakery.

I am always massively impressed by woman who will happily poo in public toilets - I do have issues about this. I feel like standing outside thei cubicle and giving them a round of applause.

I try to keep pooing private, but don't always succeed

DP has been known to burst in desperate for a poo after too much coffee while I am having a bath, but it is not encouraged!

I know it's only bodily functions:)
I wish I could be more normal, I have serious issues which have dominated and cast a shadow over my entire adult life, I used to think maybe I'd somehow get over it but really I think things are just too deeply entrenched so I just have to work around it.

(apologies for throwing gloom over what was intended as a light hearted thread!)

Ha, ha at what Astronaut said! Yes, during birth but any other time wees - yes, poos - no.

If it makes any difference to you mercury when I was a teenager living with my parents I tried to wait until noone was in before having a poo. Or fill the bowl with toilet paper to muffle the tell-tail splash. I was the same until I moved in with my now husband. His completely relaxed attitude and genuine interest in my poo habits made things much easier

I laughed a lot at the clip of OBEM where the young girl turns to her boyfriend and says "I've just shat! It's comin out, I can't stop it ". I loved her honest indignance - I didn't know about pooing being a possibility until I got pregnant!

Wee is fine. Poo is not

Although Oh has had to take me to the loo after my CS, has also had to help me when I had gall stones and was rolling around the bathroom puking and pooping at the same time, also after my operation when I had a reaction to the meds and a spectacular episode of D&V

I do try to retain an air of mystery :o

thanks Passme , It's reassuring to know I'm not the only one with issues :)

I'm aware, broadly speaking, of the root causes and triggers of my problems, but I think I'm a bit too far gone for a sympathetic parter to help

Still, you never know!

Ive peed with my boyfriend in the same room but with him facing the other way, I literally cant wee with him watching my bladder goes on protest. He finds it hilarious

Needless to say I could never poo with him there uurgh

MrsHelsBels74 I'm a bathroom prude anyway but to me baths are sacred, a time to unwind & relax. To me it shows a lack of respect.

agree, its the only time i get time on my own

I think sometimes when men do it, there seems to be a kind of territory marking thing going on??
I remember once a builder used my toilet...I was appalled, and at the same time amazed that anyone could go in someone else's loo

I know it's just a bodily function, but it is a smelly one. Thank God for multiple toilets in the house. We're a family who like to keep that side of things private.

Scent marking mercury! I actually asked DH what he thought tradesmen did if they needed a poo when out at a job. He replied "ask to use the shitter and do one". obvious I suppose but definitely a
Boy thing

I remember, several years ago, that a very panicky postman asked if he could use my toilet.
I was a bit surprised, but of course I said yes

I don´t care if my husband uses the toilet whilst I´m in the bathroom & he doesn´t care if I do.

Children-teenagers-prefer to be alone whilst on the toilet, but don´t care if we use the toilet whilst they are in the bathroom.

We have privacy for poo but don't worry about wee. I think the privacy for poo is mainly to do with the smell. Before menopause, I preferred privacy dor changing tampons, but didn't always get it.

I have read of men who insist on barging in and doing a poo while their wife is in the shower, which I am sure is to do with scent marking. Not-so-subtle attempt.