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Do you take it in turns with DH/DP to get up with the kids at weekends?

52 replies

sandyballs · 27/02/2006 15:36

We used to but I've suddenly realised that for the past few weeks it has always been me. This weekend just gone he emerged at about 10.30am on Saturday (I had been up since 6.30) and yesterday I stomped in there at 9.00 and woke him. I know he works hard and he is also studying at college two nights at week but I also work hard (3 days a week) and sort the kids/house out the rest of the time. It just feels very unfair, but when we discussed it yesterday he didn't seem to think it was. I'm fed up with coping with the girls on my own every single morning, a bit of help at the weekend shouldn't be too much to ask surely.

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purpleprincess · 27/02/2006 15:38

We do one morning each on the weekend - informally. I too work 3 days so I dont think you are being at all unreasonable! it's only fair.

JennyLee · 27/02/2006 15:41

In my dreams dh is a lazy git

tarantula · 27/02/2006 15:45

We do 1 morning each tho quite often I cant get back to sleep if I'm woken as I'm so used to getting up at 7 and quite often dd doesnt wake till 8 or later.

Dp didnt get up till 9 today Envy and that was only cos I rang and dd didnt arise till 9.45. Now why couldnt she have done that YESTRDAY grrrr

meowmix · 27/02/2006 15:59

pretty equal really, we try to each get one lie in while the other does toddler duty. I find that the trick is to agree the lie in in advance, and not assume that he'll remember promising you a lie in after he got back from the pub....

Frizbetheexpansionset · 27/02/2006 16:00

Dh does the kids on weekends in the mornings, as he likes to get up early and I don't!! that been said I also never get a lie in past 9am anyway....but 9am is fine with me!!

RedRidingHood · 27/02/2006 16:03

Dh (when he is here!) always starts to get up just as I have got out of the bed - drives me mad!

Mind you he's not seen her for 5 weeks so hopefully I'll be getting a lie in on Sunday plus a long bath without getting all the bath toys thrown in with me :)

scatterbrain · 27/02/2006 16:18

My dh point blank refused to do this ! If I get a lie in it will because I have pretended to still be asleep and then he will humph about all day - so tbh it's not worth it !

Have long ago realised that although we both work full-time - dd is my responsibility and mine only ! I even have to go with them if Daddy takes her out on her bike fgs - otherwise I am being "selfish" - Oh don't get me started - I could moan about this all day !

WideWebWitch · 27/02/2006 16:23

Yes, we take it in turns. Sandyballs, he IS being unfair, would he like it the other way round? I think not.

Kidstrack2 · 27/02/2006 16:23

Yes dp takes his turn with ds and dd at weekend, and when ds was a baby and taking a bottle during the night he would bath him that evening give him last bottle and give ds his feed during the night! Lovely dp that i haveSmile

Steppy1 · 27/02/2006 16:25

... my "lie-in" is usually on a Saturday, DH's on a Sunday... what a sad pair we are !!!!!

cod · 27/02/2006 16:25

no
we see who feeels tired

hate allt hsi takign turns stuff

madmarchhare · 27/02/2006 16:26

Ah but we're always tired, very very lazy and havent quite got over our single days and have to take it in turns or one of us would end up taking the piss.

MaloryTowers · 27/02/2006 16:27

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Fimbo · 27/02/2006 16:27

No, we just all get up together and get on with it, but then my children are not usually up before 7.30

Blandmum · 27/02/2006 16:27

No, he always gets up with the kids!

Kidstrack2 · 27/02/2006 16:27

cod so whoever feels most tired stays in bed kinda thing, thats still taking it in turns, if that were the case with me and dp i would just say "i'm tired would you get up this morning"Grin

Blu · 27/02/2006 16:28

Yes, because it's a given that we're BOTH tired!

madmarchhare · 27/02/2006 16:28

No but, Im more tired than you, no me, lol

scatterbrain · 27/02/2006 16:37

Annoys the hell out of me though - he stays up till 2am fiddling with his computer and then huffs if he has to get up with dd !! I need 9 hrs sleep and he needs 5 - so - why can't I get a lie in !!!!

It's not fair !

madmarchhare · 27/02/2006 16:38

Oh yes scatterbrain, I know that one.

wannaBe1974 · 27/02/2006 16:51

no, we tend to both get up together as DS wants to play with daddy on the weekends. If anyone gets a lie-in though it's DH, but I have no problem with that as DH gets up at 5:15 every morning during the week so he deserves a lie-in. Would never complain if he wanted one and I'm happy to get up with DS.

alittlebitshy · 27/02/2006 16:53

we have got into a pattern of me lying in sat and him mon (vicar, sunday rather early and busy anyhow Grin). Works nicely and we don't resent each other the sleep cos we get our turns.

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sandyballs · 27/02/2006 16:54

I don't even want to lie in bed particularly, once I'm awake I like to get up. But it would be quite nice to all get up as a family at weekends and be together at breakfast. But because he knows I don't mind getting up he doesn't bother Angry.

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WideAwake · 27/02/2006 16:55

DS gets up at 6-7 DW gets up at 9-10 (DD doesnt get up yet thank god), but then she is stuck with him all week :) so I should count myself lucky

crazydazy · 27/02/2006 16:55

I get up if DP is working Saturday as that would mean he has had to get up and go to work for 6 days so believe that its only fair for him to have a sleep in.

Sometimes I go to bed for an hour when he gets up Shock

Its not so bad now as DS sleeps through almost every night so our sleep isn't broken and so I don't mind getting up.