Why would the OM encourage a friendship with his wife?

[TheNightWatch]

This is about a dear friend of mine. Im keeping out of it as she knows my feelings on the subject but, why on earth is he introducing her to his wife and encouraging them to meet up? what planet is he on?

Well from what I've gathered, without asking too much, it's her that is the dom.

Aw no, please don't tell me he gets his rocks off by being tied up and spanked by 2 women... is there's nothing new under under the sun?

No. He's a messed up abuser, who was sexually abused as a kid. So he likes to control his women. If you can read a story into a book which only contains five lines. That's the jist of it.

Misogynists heaven. It's not even anything like rl bdsm either, from those I know who partake. It's dangerous. It's just encouraging lots of women to expect shitty behaviour in real life with the odd slap thrown in

Well, OP, that's your answer he gets off on causing even further jubilation to your friend and his wife. He sounds sick.

Haven't read the whole thread but the first thing that popped into my head was that he thought if they were friends the OW wouldn't tell his wife he was cheating.

Why would you want to hurt a friend scenario it would make it very difficult.

Now that I've slept on it, I'm wondering if his wife just isn't into that bedroom stuff that he's gotten friend into and maybe it's some sort of an arrangement?

I think this happens quite often. The OW is introduced as a friend, then the DW is accused of being unreasonable for suspecting that something could be going on when DH is clearly just being friendly to a mutual friend.

if it's an arrangement and all are happy though...just leave them to it.

I meant humiliation not jubilation. The dw will not be jubilant.
Unless is there a chance (small) that the dw knows he has a OW and she doesn't mind as she is not into bdsm. Maybe the dw knows and its the OW that's in the dark.
Ok its a small chance but its there.

His dw may not be into bdsm or she may be very much into it and enjoy the vicarious thrill of hearing what her dh has been up to with ow while awaiting her opportunity to get in on the act

If so, it would suggest an 'arrangement' between the spouses that your pal may not be privy to at this moment in time.

Without wishing to jump on the wagon of vicarious pleasure, I hope you'll keep us updated with time/place of your mate's appearance in a lezzy show with the dw

What were the chances though of reading that bloody book and meeting a bloke who was very into that scene? I think it will take a strange turn as well. I may get to hear but she knows I don't approve and probably thinks I'm dead square in the sack