Why would the OM encourage a friendship with his wife?

[TheNightWatch]

This is about a dear friend of mine. Im keeping out of it as she knows my feelings on the subject but, why on earth is he introducing her to his wife and encouraging them to meet up? what planet is he on?

Sounds as if he's got a harem complex; likes to imagine he's a potentate, master of all the women he surveys.

I wouldn't be surprised if he's been in a legover situation with any of his dw's friends who've been up for it. Your mate is just another notch on his belt - or bedpost should she get to have it off with him in the marital bed.

How do you think your mate will react if turns out that his dw's in on the game and enjoys threesomes?

I second that Dprince. I dropped a long-term friend for the exact same reason.

Well, I wouldnt be surprised if the threesome thing came up as, he's the best sex shes ever had. Arent they all?

Dprince. I dont ask too many questions as its all abit Jeremy Kyle for me. They met intially when she was at work and he came into the shop with his wife and went right up to her whilst she was hanging things and introduced the wife, from what I know. They also run a club for pensioners on an evening one night a week. Thats how he knows her.

The children dont say mummy and daddy they are adults.

Oh that's ok then, because adults don't get hurt when they find out that their dad is a manipulative pyschopathic scumbag who has engineered a situation where their dear mum has been humiliated by him AND her new friend.

Your DH, IMO is being self centered and selfish. He wants to normalise the situation so that he doesn't look like the baddie. It's downright unreasonable. Ultimately he's protecting his interests as he doesn't want to lose either of you

Take control of the situation and ensure you are being heard with your wishes.

I meant to say your friend's DH not yours, sorry!

If they are adults, they are less likely to like her when it all comes out. So they are going to feel betrayed buy her and their dad. That's nice.

He is doing it because he gets off on it. Both women would do well to get the hell away from him.

Rather by her than buy her. :)

there are quite a few reasons, as above, but all of them make him into a dick of the highest order

your friend is the OW ?

is she fucking stupid ?

She thinks she's in control. Like you do.

Like who does what?

I suspect he erroneously fondly imagines he's got a dick of the highest order, AF

As for Watch's friend, she has to be either stupid or desperate - or a lethal combination of both.

She likes to think she's in control? She's deluded. Silly cah!

Of course she's deluded. I guess because she's in control in all other areas of her life she thinks this is the same. She says it only sex

Surely its as self-absorbed as 'I love you and I love you, and therefore I am SURE that you are going to like eachother'.

I mean, doesn't that play as part of their idiocy? Wife will be thrilled that he has finally met his soulmate, will wave him off happily and they will share the children, because she will make such a wonderful mother, and the kids will be thrilled to see him finally happy????

That puts a completely different spin on it, Watch.

There was me thinking she was his bit on the side when, of course, he's her bit of spare.

Good luck to her with that one

need you ask? the one that every tom, dick and harry is reading. Appart from me

50 shades of vanilla? That book's got a lot to answer for.

I rate it a crap read, but as I've got no intention of reading it you may want to seek other reviews.

Why is every obsessed with that book? I have no intention of reading it, sounds shit.

Its an obbsession with them all. Im not interested, been there and done that in my twenties. She's not the only one I know that has read it and is now living it out. I have at least three friends who are in dodgy relationships due to that book!!

Ot. The book is shit. 2 hours of my life I will never get back.

OT. I'd never heard of the book but inspired by the previous post I decided to read some reviews. Of course I Googled '50 Shades of Vanilla' but when '50 Shades of Grey' showed in the search box instead, I managed to find it.
I have just spent 20 minutes being more than adequately entertained by the reviews on Amazon. I won't be reading it.

And back kind of on topic, I have a married friend who has 3 BDSM affairs. She wasn't remotely interested in that until her first MM introduced her to it. She used to tell me a lot of detail and frankly half these blokes haven't got a clue what they're doing when they get into this and I'm surprised my friend hasn't been killed or at least seriously injured by these clueless amateurs.