Me and dh have been married 13 yrs., with 2 beautiful daughters. Though we've had ups n downs, we got thru it all. I thought we had a great sex life too; (sex about once a week). Well, about 3 weeks ago, I was cleaning off his dresser, and found a recent receipt for Lifestyles condoms. And another item I can't identify on the receipt. (drvn. 3.25 oz.). Well, the condoms WE use are from the drawer, with a 2011 expiration date. In fact, he'll always put 2 condoms near the bed, and it's ALWAYS the 2011 ones. I keep waiting for him to bring out the new ones he bought, but he hasn't. I decided a few days ago to throw out the 2011, so the next time I'll know for sure. I'm not saying anything yet, but of course my mind is racing. He works at the railroad in the tower, overseeing the yard workers, 3 nights a week. Now, there are mainly men working there. About 2 wks. ago, they ordered a new chair to replace his old one. Well, he took a video of someone throwing the old chair over the tower. Very short video. I found it odd that the video didn't show a face, just arms...and the person didn't say a word back to my husband when he laughed on video. So one night, I played the video frame by frame. The arms are small, with delicate hands, and even though it's a little blurry, I can see a glow of pink paint around the fingernails. When I laughed about the video to him, he said Yeah, the guy didn't want to carry the chair back down so just threw it over. He ALWAYS calls his coworkers by name. About 2 mo. ago, we got into an argument because when he took this shift he stopped calling me or texting me from work. Now he sends me a hello every night, but it was not until I said something. His texts are always aloof though. So last Friday, I sent a text telling him I loved him, and hinted around about sex on Monday night. His answer? Ok...goodnight. I said Wow...no I love you?? Nothing about Monday? I was upset. He then says Yeah Yeah, Monday night, goodnight, I love you. I'm kinda busy right now. Fast forward to the very next day.....He tells me a worker laid off, and he has to work Monday night!!!! wtf?! I acted cool and calm. I didn't want to let on like I know anything. One night, I heard a female dispatcher on the CB talking to him at work. And one night about 2 mo. ago, he got a hang up call on his cell from the dispatcher line at 3 am. Only thing is, I thought the dispatchers for the railroad worked the CB radios from out of Nebraska, unless they hired a new local dispatcher. At this point, I don't know what to think. Should I keep waiting to see if he brings out the new condoms? I've looked everywhere for them, and it's not like him to hide them. Another thing, he just recently started using condoms with me...in the past 2 mo. He always hated condoms and we used the withdrawal method for years, except for a handful of times...which is why the condoms we did have are expired from 2011. Any advice? Am I over thinking things, or could there really be something going on...possibly at work? Please advise. :(