Want to have DC2 but don't want sex

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Right, so I'm posting on here, as I'm hoping to get at least one reply saying I'm not the only one going through this type of thing..

DS is 13 months old and we managed to "make" him on the first try nearly two years ago, which was the last time we had sex.

During pregnancy it was fine and I was always able to come up with some excuse and in any case DH found the idea a bit off-putting so it didn't feel like a big deal. When baby was born, I thought I would somehow feel up for it again after the initial haze lifted, but it just never happened.

I have no interest whatsoever and I don't see myself ever having sex again, which is a bit tricky, as I now really want another baby . DH is getting slightly impatient I think and I'm running out of ideas on how to change the subject when he brings it up. I had been hoping the porn he keeps downloading would keep his mind off things in the real world, but evidently it's not. I think he intentionally leaves traces of it on the computer to give me a hint, but I'm just not bothered by it. In fact, I wish he would just be happy with the porn.

I don't know what's wrong with me. Anything sexual anywhere, like a TV advert or the like just gets me fuming mad and stressed. I am still breastfeeding and I know it can make you less interested, but surely this is excessive?

I recently had a thyroid function test, but according to the doctor it was within the reference range. However, I've since learned that the TSH reading I had is considered boarderline in some countries. I don't know what to do really, as the doctor simply refused to do further tests. The first thing that came to my mind was "I don't want to keep trying for a baby for ages, if I have a thyroid problem, because then I'll have to have sex all the time!"

Aaah, what to do, what to do???!!!

If your H is a decent man as opposed to one who does sod all round the house or with the baby while moaning all the time about how his cock's being ignored, it is important that you keep talking to him and telling him that you love and appreciate him. It is miserable for a person with a working libido to live in a sexless relationship, particularly when the attitude of the other partner is 'Tough, suck it up.'
I believe that Relate (and a few other places) offer psychosexual counselling, which might help you work out why you feel the way you do and offer suggestions as to what to do about it, whether that's ways to activate your own libido or ways to deal with the fact that you have no libido but your H does.

"This is why I made a new appointment with the GP today and I am hoping to convince her to send me to have further thyroid tests done."

If she refuses again, go and see a better doctor.

There are good threads on here about thyroid problems. It might be worth having a read.

I am symptomatic while well within the "reference range" and need, although loss of libido has not been a symptom.

I often don't feel like doing anything sexual but once I do then it becomes enjoyable. Try masturbating, maybe using a toy. Just to make yourself remember how nice sexual feelings can be. You don't need to be turned on, vibrators do it for you! (Just a little clit one)
Talk to your dh about how your feeling and start trying to do intimate but non sexual things eg talking in bed, holding hands, cuddling. If you feel more intimacy you may start to feel closer and this can lead to desire. You can always try both masturbating next to eachother together if you feel comfortable after a while, it can be very intimate and fulfilling with less stress.