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ex-H been on MN reading my posts

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mistressmiggins · 24/02/2006 10:08

and says that I shouldnt listen to you lot cos not qualified to give advice
and laughed at what Ive written

feel gutted

I get support from you guys
I get to sound off and say things that perhaps I dont want to say to RL friends & family - mainly cos PROTECTING H
AND chat & laughter - I dont just post miserable stuff....

feel my thoughts have been invaded

yes I know its the internet but I didnt expect him to bother reading as he never did when he was here.

He says he was thinking about the children and was alone in a hotel room with internet access so chose to read what Ive been writing

now feel I cant post about anything other than chat

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Caligula · 24/02/2006 12:42

Why on earth does he think he's qualified to have an opinion on anything you do? Why is he so interested anyway?

Have two names. One to tell us all the stories about him and to amuse us with his inadequacies and the other for all the important things.

expatinscotland · 24/02/2006 12:42

Well if he's reading this: MrM, you're a prize twonk.

wannaBe1974 · 24/02/2006 12:46

I don't think you should have to change your name, why should you hide from him. It's a free country, you have the right to post whatever you like, wherever you like, if he doesn't like that then that's his perogative, but you haven't said anything about him that isn't true so you've done nothing wrong. If he's that insecure about the person he is that he has to come and read all about what others think about him on a public forum, then maybe it's time he took a long hard look at himself and asked just why he is so desperate to know what you think of him.

At least there are people on here who understand what you're going through and who are here for you, not sure the same could be said of him, or maybe that's the problem, maybe he's finding that not as many people condone what he's done as he hoped.

He's free to create an account and post how his ex dared to be upset at the manner in which he cheated on her with another woman, I'm sure he'll get all the support on here that he deserves :O.

Normsnockers · 24/02/2006 12:51

Message withdrawn

merrymum · 24/02/2006 12:59

have not been following either but i get the impression that he is an absolute fucing WANKER

Greensleeves · 24/02/2006 13:04

Asshole. Stupid, twisted, sad, patheitc, laughable, contemptible, excuse for an asshole.

doormat · 24/02/2006 13:06

greensleeves please dont hold back

Greensleeves · 24/02/2006 13:09

Well, he doesn't know how lucky he was to have a wife like Miggins. She is lovely.

Stupid, worthless, spineless, slithering little worm.

doormat · 24/02/2006 13:11

I know gs
his own fault that he will one day regret and rightfully so.

pooka · 24/02/2006 13:24

dickhead

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mistressmiggins · 24/02/2006 13:34

thanks guys

You are right - I post here cos I know people have been/are in same/similar position.

I also dont want to say things in front of kids and have actually been protecting friends & family from all the details as he is still my children's father & dont want people bad-mouthing him to them.

And sometimes when you discuss things with people who are close, they cant give an unbiased opinion, whereas you guys can sit back & see things differently.

he says he wishes he hadnt looked - curiousity got the better of him.

And finally, you are all qualified to listen cos you are compassionate mothers/step-mothers/mothers-to-be and pick people up when they are down
it is very lonely in the house at night alone every night and I do actually go on other threads than the Relationship one !!
maybe I wont name change....
I havent posted anything on here that I dont mean/wouldnt want people to know....I guess he may realise just how hurt I am cos I put a brave face on to him....

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skerriesmum · 24/02/2006 13:37

What an idiot for telling you that he'd looked!

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mistressmiggins · 24/02/2006 13:47

he told me he looked cos I said I wouldnt send his prescription in the post - "I suppose all your Mumsnetter friends told you to do that" eh said...to which I denied it (cos you havent) and he then said hed vbeen reading my posts....

oops on his part - like you said, I wouldnt have admitted it

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Caligula · 24/02/2006 13:50

Ha ha ha
I rather like the idea of us being a gang of harpies who tell you do things you wouldn't otherwise do

We also hold covens where we dance round fires and hex men we don't like the sound of.

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mistressmiggins · 24/02/2006 13:54

quite right !

clearly I cant make any decision without consulting the MN oracle

you evil hags

actually if you're that powerful, can you conjure uyp a voodoo doll?

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Greensleeves · 24/02/2006 13:56

If he said "I suppose your MN friends told you to do that" then it means he feels threatened by the fact that you have such a vast and amazing support network. He wants you to be on your own with no support, the cowardly b@stard. Personally I wouldn't change my name. Let him look, if he gets his rocks off being called a stupid wanker by hundreds of women who are more intelligent than he is

Caligula · 24/02/2006 13:57

Hey MM, I've got it right here.

Have just stuck another pin in.

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mistressmiggins · 24/02/2006 13:59

this mornign felt rock bottom

2 good friends came round unexpectedly and now been on MN and read your comments, feel much better & more relaxed.

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gigglinggoblin · 24/02/2006 14:01

agree with gs, but i think it also means that he thinks you couldnt possibly go against his wishes on your own, its all our fault - we are leading you astray i suspect he also thought he would stop you posting so we couldnt talk you into doing things and you would be back under his control again. pathetic

prettyfly1 · 24/02/2006 16:51

mistress i have an idea for a new thread. its called " my ex has a tiny penis and i am happy without him because........". Give the controlling arrogant loser something to talk about, see how much he laughs at that

Greensleeves · 24/02/2006 16:57

... the worthless little weasel

Freckle · 24/02/2006 17:09

Oh for goodness's sake, what does he know? How does he know we aren't qualified to give advice?? Does he know us all? Does he know what we do or have done for a living? We're not all dumb-blonde SAHMs who know sweet FA about anything other than changing nappies and clearing up sick (and before anyone jumps on me, I'm blonde and a SAHM!).

MrM, if you're still sad enough to be reading your ex-wife's threads, please be assured that a number of us here are more than qualified to give advice on a wide range of subjects. You see, that's the beauty of Mumsnet .

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mistressmiggins · 24/02/2006 17:36

well Freckle he never bothered to ask me whether people actually stated what job they did and so as you quite rightly said, doesnt realise the vaste cross-section of jobs / experiences

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tribpot · 24/02/2006 17:55

Hi MrMiggins, you are an unmitigated arse.

Dunno if he's reading, but quite honestly if I met this guy in a pub, I would buy a pint of (cheap) beer and pour it over his worthless (and empty) head.

As for us not being qualified to give advice, methinks the adulterous git doth protest too much. Don't like our advice, I guess? That is because you are an unmitigated arse.

Right, I've finished now. I feel better

Nightynight · 24/02/2006 18:44

ha ha mistress miggins,
we're the best qualified people there are to give advice on divorce and dealing with men - cos we've been through it ourselves! And cos there are so many of us!

He is bound to say that sort of thing. He's an Ex. Their sole function in life is to wind you up!!

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