now I'm "a bitch, and full of hatred."
I have a friend who, over the 2.5 years I've known her has always leaned on me (and others as far as I know) for childcare like picking up from school if she's stuck in town etc. We are both sahms.
It got to the stage last year where she was calling me every other day at school run time, saying she was stuck and could I help out again. I eventually distanced myself from her at that time, not wanting a row but was feeling very used. I thought she'd got the hint about that kind of thing.
I've never felt the need to ask other people to pick up my dcs unless it's a dire emergency like my ds1 was vomiting at school and I couldn't leave him to pick up my dd.
Anyway, we are supposed to be good friends - having helped each other through a couple of relationship traumas.
It's kind of started up again though. She's made arrangements to go away this weekend and then asked me to pick up her ds for football (my ds does the same football session). It's all very tight timing as it is, getting my dcs fed and out the door as well as going in the complete opposite direction to get her ds as well.
I told her this and that I really didn't want to be rushing about with my dcs and being 30 weeks pg. But I also told her that I felt she only ever contacted me when she wants a favour. She then called me a bitch and drove off a la Dukes of Hazzard. I texted her to say I'm not a bitch but that I've helped her out an awful lot but that I'm felt like a member of her staff. She has an au pair.
Apparently, I'm "full of hatred" too now I've pointed out how I feel. I was wondering if I was being an unhelpful friend but others have been amazed at how much she asks and how much I've done.
I feel sick and nervous now but I can only see that I've just felt if I didn't say something now, I would end up being resentful again. Except it's blown up.