Another Saturday night on my own

[Poppysquad]

Sat on the settee. Crap on the telly. No contact from the dubious male I met through Internet dating. What is it all about? Is this single life at 51? If so it stinks.

I don't wan to wallow in self pity I want to be out there enjoying life. My divorce is due anytime. Life should be fun, but.......finding it tough

You can join me - I am almost 52 - and couldn't bear yet another episode of House while waiting to pick up kids.

At least you can choose what to watch on the telly. Little things I guess..

On me tod?

Me too. Dcs away as well so I have no reason to be in. Ah well. Just signed up to match.com. I am that bored.

This thread caught my eye as I'm just sat here crying feeling sorry for myself, just turned forty , divircing husband as he walked out at Easter as no longer loves me, four year old daughter in bed so can't go anywhere.

Know it's early days but feel sad that this is my sad lonely life now ..

Got to pick up teenager - who does have a life :).
But who's for making this a regular Saturday evening sob fest piss up consciousness raising evening?
Will check in when I get back to see the roll call!

I know... I sooo know... I dont see myself (no insults against anyone else!) just looking forward to the lastest soaps... chocs, wine and crisps.. every night??? I have so much more to give. I mean, really? I read repeatedly, advice about pampering oneself, treating oneself, but that is it, isnt it? 'oneself'. Nothing provides the same amount of satisafaction as sharing simple things! I dont want to be on my own. but even so, as dismal and lonely and despairing, it is still better than being with a TWAT of an EA, VerballyA, MA and now FA 'D'H.. who just wont let go'!

I dont want to soak in a candlelit bath with soft music all on my own! Well.. maybe occasonally :) sigh would be nice to share that bath more often though :(

Ah ... but what with? Not just anything, surely?
Back in a bit
Continue the roll call

Gosh sharing a bath-so not at that stage myself! Just had yet another ridiculous phone call from my ex who was crying again... And I have to say I am grateful to be alone at the moment. I am hopeful that when I am ready I will meet someone worth spending a saturday night with.

Who said life was supposed to be fun?

Home alone here too ladies

DD at her boyfriends and DS is with his dad

Can't even be bothered to make some dinner ....

IS life supposed to fun though? Or, when we have kids, do we make a choice to put them first and does that mean giving up the potential for our own fun?

I don't know about "fun", but I think life is meant to be fulfilling ... and there are a lot of different ways to feel fulfilled.

Not just me then. Thought not. Let's have a pact. Not more tears. Not tonight anyway.

I thought I was lucky and had met someone lovely through Times Encounters, but it's Saturday night and all I've heard from him today is a text saying he's slept most of the day And is going back to sleep - after effects of anaesthesia after a minor op yesterday. Trouble is, I've heard so many lies from my STBXH that I doubt everything and in addition to being pissed off about being in on my own tonight, believe he's probably out shagging someone else avoiding me. He is not returning my calls.

I need a new, more positive framework. And a bit of self belief. Anyone tried singles clubs? Any good?

shuffles in disbelievingly

Me too. Separated in March. Kids are upstairs in their bedrooms as adolescents are wont to do.

I'm downstairs with Jools Holland, a smelly cat and the laptop.

Please don't let it be over for me

Didn't mean to bold

Feeling sad and lonely too. I've been telling myself I'm staying in because I have to be up at 4.30 for work. The reality is, even if I wasn't working tomorrow, I'd still be sat here sad and lonely.

Me too. Tried to sleep but can't.

you might not have anyone lying next to you, but at least you havent got anyone lying to you

51, on my own cos dp goes taxi ing on weekends, kids in bed, bored, quite like it when he goes out sometimes, can watch what i want, but mostly bored bored bored.no money to go out,no babysitter and friends far away or not got kids

Good point MateyMOO. Thinking about it. How many Saturday nights did I spend in on my own when my STBXH was here? He might have been in the same room but he wasn't 'here'.

Very good point. I remember being reallybpussed off that H spent every evening on the computer in the office including Saturdays when it would have been nice to watch a film or chill out.

So even when he was here he wasn't really here (he was texting his best mates wife instead....)

Hi all - back from picking up beautiful young thing (AKA DD2)
Sisters - even just talking here to you on a Saturday night has made me feel better!
My argument is that we cannot possibly ALL be losers - therefore - NONE of us is a loser - we just need more confidence in ourselves.
Thanks for starting the thread Poppy

Well I had a late night last night . So can cope with doing nowt tonight.@

Off to bed as I am old, but - sunny side up - all :)