Been sexting now to do it for real

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This is my first post so please bear with me.

I have been sexting with a guy for the last 2 weeks or so, we have been friends for the past two years, nothing has ever actually happened between us other than a quick peck but there has always been a mutual attraction and flirting.

Now he wants to meet and actually put our words into action and I think I do too, just feeling very nervous about it all. Not terribly confident about my body and its been a whike with someone new. Has anyone got experience of this and any confidence boosting tips would be gratefully received. Thanks

just to clarify these have been suggestive texts not pictures

Nice bottle of Pinot grigio!

And some new underwear!

And condoms! Safe sex!!!

Yes definitely to all of the above! Thank you

I've had a great afternoon today doing exactly that.

The texting in advance has the advantage that we've got to know what each other likes and wants.
For me the reality was so much more than the fantasy.

Don't think about your body issues, your guy likes you who you are now.

He's known you for 2 years. He knows whether he fancies you or not. Clearly!! Relax & enjoy!

I did this, the guy I did I with is now my DP :o I was so nervous I spilt wine all over myself as soon as we got to the hotel. Perfect excuse to undress though ;)

Get yourself some new underwear, have a pamper time before hand, chuck in a glass of wine or 2 and have a bloody good time!

He'll probably be just as nervous. Hope you have a good time. Update us!

ChildofIsis Really? better than the fantasy? I have so enjoyed the texts and fear that the reality will not live up to them. Perhaps I need to get more details from him as to what exactly turns him on so that I can feel more confident in my ability to do that for him.

midwife99 I know what you mean, but he has not seen me naked!

WhiteWidow What a great diversion tactic! Might try it myself :o
I will keep you all updated, we have no date set yet tho

It really did make things easier ha!

I really hope the reality lives up to it, it certainly did for me! If not though, laugh it off, give it another go! X

We hadn't seen each other naked until today.
It was the best sex I've ever had.

He loves fuller figured women and I love slim men with firm buttocks, result!

Apparently I'm the best kisser. Who knew?
I thoroughly enjoyed myself and didn't once worry about how I looked.
He did keep telling me how beautifull I am so there was nothing to worry about.

It's funny seeing it written down has made it more real.

I never felt this special with the ex.

Childofisis & WhiteWidow do you think the texting in advance of the actual act made it more exciting? Will you continue with the texting now that you have finally done the deed? I would really miss it if we stopped

Oh so much more! It was brilliant afterwards too because we texted about what we'd enjoyed and planning what we could do next time... ;) it took it to another level. We carried on up until getting together unoficially. I still have some of the messages and I love looking back on them.

We have continued with the texting, I think it adds to the occasion, kind of like a foreplay to the actual foreplay.

It certainly created more of a 'need' shall we say.

I love re-reading the texts, wonder if he does too?

I think my situation is more a friends with benefits type thing, not that I give two hoots after this afternoon.

Rereading the texts is half the fun.

Yeah it creates a build up, I remember how excited I'd get! Aw I miss those times. Methinks a little role play is needed for me.... Muahaha

Childofisis so pleased that it worked out for you and the day was a success, now for the next one eh?!

Ditto and now my DP. Oh and it's way better in real life

I guess I'd just keep telling myself I can't sext for the rest of my life, eventually I'm going to have to do the real thing so it might as well be now!

Relax and have a great time, I'm sure it will be everything you hoped for :)

Well we've said that the 'next one' will probably be next friday pm.

DD goes to her dad's after school on fri and I pick her up at 6pm on saturday so I have quite a nice window of opportunity.

I think ex may've twigged something when I turned up grinning like a loon!

Childofisis, mine is also a friends with benefits, we don't live in close proximity to each other and we both have children, actually meeting up is going to be a mission to organise and will probably be during the day. Although I like sex in the daytime you don't have the cover of darkness to hide your modesty ;)