Nude pics of girlfriend

[imafella]

Hi, I'm 37 and my ex is 35. I have 2 kids with another ex and none with the girl concerned in this post. Last year I found nude pics of my girlfriend on her phone. It was by accident. She denied ahe was sending them to anyone and got 1 year of bills sent to the house. She also offered that I could read her emails. I also googled her name and foundshe was on a networking site site and did not declare she was in a long term relationship (3 1/2 years). She filled in all the other details etc an no pic of me. In time the trust went and the relationship ended. I put to her that she could have uploaded the photos to this google plus site and there would be no trace of text or email. I also said to her that se could have another sim card.We are now back talking trying to sort things out but not yet in a relationship.

I need to ask you ladies if you can give honest and helpful opinions to help me here. Do some girls take nude photos so they can just look at the pics for themselves?

Thanks.

of other girls you mean? Yes I bet many do.
But she does sound like she's not as keen on you as you are on her. Why would she have your name on a social networking site though?

Erm, no ... cant say that I ever have. Or even thought about it for that matter.

Yes, why not?

Although you sound overly paranoid. Why did she feel the need to get bills sent to the house and tell you you could read her emails? If DP found pictures on my phone and I told him they were for me, he would believe me because he trusts me. I wouldn't feel a need to offer any further confirmation.

By social networking site do you mean FB or similar? I have been married for 11 years and I have no idea at all if either myself or dh have stated this on FB. We both use it.

Let's be realistic. No, no woman in the world takes photos of herself naked and keeps them on her phone so that she alone can look at them.

In your position I wouldn't get back with her.

Hi and thanks. I didn't aske for her to provide the bills and didn't look at either them or her emails.

Can't offer the 'female perspective' that you are looking for, but I can confirm that I have taken pictures of myself naked. I wouldn't worry about that myself, but it sounds like there is a bit of a lack of trust anyway.

I mean she didn't post her relationship status....left it blank but completed all the other stuff etc. I googled her the same morning I found the pics. She said she took them a few months earlier as bored at home. We were going through a quiet patch iwhn she said she took the pics if you know what I mean. Strangely, there was a nude pic of me at the end ofthe photo sequence. Was that incase I discovered them? i.e. insurance. Alsoo they wre not hidden in a secret folder on her phone so I could have seen them I suppose if I was the sort to be checking. She still says she was not having an affair.

Agree with imperial, think there's more to it than she's letting on tbh.

sorry about my typing errors...my laptop is ancient lol.

You can send pictures over your phone via various apps. You wouldn't be billed sending them in that way. So a years worth of phone bills wouldn't prove anything.

Again if you were using a phone app to communicate, you wouldn't have an email trail.

I can think of no valid reason at all to take nude photos on your phone, unless they were to show to someone in someway. You just wouldn't keep them on your phone if they were purely for yourself, you'd download them and keep them somewhere safer in case you lost your phone.

Sorry, doesn't add up.

If you are googling her name, then you don't trust her, and it seems she's giving reason for you not to trust her. Both are good enough reasons to run like the wind without the photos on the phone issue.

I have nude photos taken with my phone that I've never shared with anyone. I take a lot of photos of myself, nude and clothed, out of boredom, seeing how I look, whatever. DP knows I do this so he wouldn't be surprised to find nude pics of me. He doesn't check my phone/pc though afaik.

Also don't have any mention of him at all on any of my social networking. Am v. private on all sites like fb, never link to DP or family.

It's not a problem for us because we have trust in our relationship. It doesn't sound like there is much in yours.

It's not meant to be agony before you get back together, OP. It sounds as though you are driven mad by her unbelieveable explanations. There really are other women out there.

she has agreed to have shared facebook site and open access to both our bills etc. I agree with the point made about apps such as whatsapp...very good point! However, she must be confident as surely you would have rang someone once on your phone.
The reason it is agony is because we are trying to be honest with each other. The truth hurts sometimes...maybe that is why she is sticking to her story. It's a complete head F**k. I do love her though. Maybe if she did cheat then she has learned her lesson? Even though I initiated the recent contact ,she keeps texting and ringing of her own accord but won't commit just yet. I told her she needs to be not involved with anyone whilst we talk. She said she isn't with anyone. We split 3 months ago. She told me I can see othr girls if I want and that made me think she is saying that to ease her guilt about seeing men. Or maybe she is looking for my response.

Also she said she was constantly secretly looking through my text messages throughout our relationship and accused me often of having affairs. I wasn't but explained to her I did delete some txt mesaages from female friends as they had rude jokes etc. and didn't want her to get the wrong idea. I meant well. I wonder if she is now trying to justify her behaviour by saying I was getting texts from girls. She met them all and I wouldn't haveintroduced her if I was seeing any of them...
I will forgive her as I love her. I just need to know he truth.

I'm sorry but I really think you have completely over-reacted, loads of women take nude photos of themselves! Has she previously cheated on you? If she was forwarding on these messages surely she would have deleted them after! To me it sounds as if you have a really patience and caring partner!

Also a good point. I did think that she would have deleted them...thats why I'm giving her the chance to prove herself. She rang tonight but cut it very short before I could answer...it only rang a few times. Now she hasn't replied to my texts or phone call over the last half hour since her 'missed' call. I hate game playing...

Do loads of women really take pictures of themselves naked just to look at themselves?

If it was the other way round and I found naked pics of my partner on his phone I would think he intended to send them to someone, sorry.

Also, trust your instincts, if she is playing games now and you suspect she's not being fully honest, I would be very wary personally.

Answer, yes, just fooling around. Intended to send to then BF now DH then chickened out. They stayed on phone for some days. It was aesthetic :)
Trust your instincts is all I can say.

I actually find some of the responses quite odd - I certainly don't think you have a patient and caring partner I'mafella, sorry.

Personally I don't take naked pictures of myself just to look at myself nude. I would only do that to send them to DH- however some pp's have said they do. So ok, we discount the photos.
But that doesn't explain the rest of her behaviour - it's not normal, really it isn't and I'm surprised some people have said it is. She's dithering over commiting to you to the point she can't even make it through a normal phone call. After her behaviour (invasive and in turn, secretive, then brashly 'open') it was you that initiated contact.
You may love her but why have a relationship, if it ever gets that far with someone like this? You can have a wonderful, commited, trusting, caring, respectful relationship with someone you love that loves you just as deeply. She doesn't act like she loves you or actually cares about or respects your feelings. I don't know what she's doing but it doesn't invalidate the above. My best guess would be she's testing the water to see how she feels about jumping ship back to you - will it be worth it for her to stop who what she is doing now to go back and she can't make up her mind.
I don't see the point of continuing in the folly of trying to re-start this 'relationship' it was never healthy and one of you was always being policed by the other. Love is never enough on it's own - there are people that have had bones broken by the spouse they 'love' and still think love will make it all ok.
Also you don't get vetted for a vagina before getting involved with a shitty person, plenty of women are just as much of an arsehole as men.
Words mean nothing if your actions are telling a different story - hers are telling you very clearly the opposite about her feelings for you.
Find a decent woman who will adore you as much as you adore her unless you really enjoy the teenaged angst and drama that will surely dog the heels of your relationship forevermore.

Apologies about my spelling/grammar errors, my laptop isn't ancient but I did accidentally chuck a coffee over it!

I find the response odd. If she had photos of herself and you thought it was off, fair enough, I'd think it's a bit off too and DP would even if it is innocent, it's just a bit funny. But her offering to give access to her emails and bills is what I find funny. Why would she? It sounds to me as though she has other means of contact that you don't know of being honest.

I would be annoyed by the reverse accusation as well, she's trying to make you out to be 'bad' and a cheater so she feels justified doing similar. The relationship seems like it has little trust and if she was routinely accusing you of cheating she probably has never trusted you fully.

On the relationship status, I know quite a few people who don't post it, I don't think mine is on my google+ being honest. Just because I didn't want that information on there as google is notorious for sharing information so I put minimal info on it!

You'll have to trust your instincts on this one but if I were in your position, I'd not bother, she doesn't sound too great and doesn't sound like she respects your relationship the way you do or feels the same way.

I meant that I find her response odd.

Woah, alarm bells. I don't think she's that into you and the comment about having other partners....seriously? I would call it quits. If a woman posted exactly that but with the sex changed eaCh time, I'd be warning her that the man was up to no good.
Look, that is simply not how you treat someone that you have respect for. I think your suspicions are reasonable and I'd call it a day. Sorry and good luck.

FWIW i take nude photos of myself on my phone. I have body image issues and sometimes want to see what i look like naked. Hell would freeze over before I sent them to anyone though.