are there parents who are always incredible nice to DC like in outnumbered?

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I know, I know it is fiction but I'd love to have that kind of patience and sense of humour...I see people acting like that all the time but can they be like that every time behind close doors too?

Me.
Well, most of the time

not me. We do the funny bits but there's an awful lot of shouty and stomping bits too.

I don't see them as kind and patient - more as sarcastic and passive aggressive. Unless I just don't get it?

We have our moments

Although not this morning when I stood in just my knickers shouting "look at my face is this my happy mummy face"?

"NOOOOOOO It is my, your arguning and not getting ready for school makes my face look this sad and angry face"

"FGS the windows are open!!!!!!!!!!!!"

But apart from this morning it is a bed of happy fucking memories every day.

They seem exasperated with their DCs most of the time. We actually like out 3 year old, but are human so often occasionally get it wrong....

Their children are really rude and badly behaved though

I do most of the time, but lucky that one is normally very good and the other cant talk back yet :o

I think it does children a big dis-service to be nice and patient and kind to them all the time.

I think a daily dose of being hollered at is very healthy for children, they learn life skills like how to read a persons expressions before they explode, how to stuff piles of junk into the bottom of a wardrobe in the time it takes for mum to pound up the stairs hollering we're not leaving the house in this bloody mess, they learn fast to put shoes on the rack as soon as they come through the door because your not being late for school cos you can't find a shoe you can flippin hop etc etc.
Heap on a layer of embarassing them in the playground - surely I'm not the only mum who thought walk to school week was a competitive mini-marathon.

The parents on Outnumbered are inefficient at best. Just like the rest of us!

They have a teenager they ignore, a brat they can't handle and a Precious-Third-Born they give in to time and again. All this while whinging at each other, being jealous of everyone else and generally being crap human beings.

That said, I do know someone whose family life is one long "my children are fantastic and I am fantastic and we are all so fantastic" FB status. Methinks she doth protest too much.

I think there are people who behave like the Outnumbered family, sadly. They're the ones you see out and about pathetically pleading with their horrible children 'sweetie, darling, don't do that please...' and being roundly ignored. There's patience and a sense of humour and then there's the kids running the show.... not a good thing.

Agreeing the the Outnumbered parents are pretty ineffectual. They give off this defeated vibe that I don't think is very reassuring for their dcs. Dcs want to know that someone is in charge.

I think I'm generally pretty patient, but there may have been a smidgeon of shouting during the One Missing Sandal Drama this morning.

I wouldn't like to be at all like the parents in outnumbered. Their children are naughty and their lives are chaotic. No thanks. I'd rather be mean and have a home where children get to school on time and without arguing with me, thank you very much.

Most of the time, yes. I get impatient with myself mostly but try to BREATH..... And count to 10.

My son has asd and OCD and picks up very quickly on "bad feeling". I try to keep him at an even keel and use humour to cover stress.

Sometimes, of course, I go utterly apeshit cause I'm only human

I don't actually watch Outnumbered...
But we are a family who get on pretty well, neither I or DP are shouty, we've 3 kids between us who are 5, 17 & 18 and who in the main are a pleasure to be around, are polite and well behaved.

DH and I rarely shout but we have ourrunning out of patience voices and I have a wicked death-stare. Plus punishments are handed out for non-compliance.

My (very lovely) friend is just like Sue, the Outnumbered mum. Last time I was there, her youngest child, aged four, drew lots of colouful pictures in felt tip all along the landing wall, which we discovered when we popped upstairs.

'Oh dear,' says my friend. 'She is such a rascal'. And smiled.

Such a rascal... and so terribly, terribly bright....

Oh yes, very bright

I don't know if you listen to the News Quiz but Jeremy Hardy had a wonderful rant about 'bright' MC children once

Jeremy Hardy: We know that middle class parents indulge their children ?cause they all think their children are fantastic ? ?My children are so bright! They?re very, very bright! That?s why they?re doing so badly at school, because they?re so bright. The children don?t understand their answers, you see. I think the reason they misbehave is they?re bored in the class, because they?re so bright, they?re not being stretched properly. And Hermione- Hermione?s so bright and that?s why she misbehaves, I think, she?s so much brighter than the other children. And that?s why she sets fire to them, I think.?

My mum (nearly 70, retired teacher) can't stand 'Outnumbered' because of the way they are always too nice to the children and let them get their way, explain and negotiate everything and don't ever really get it right...but that is the whole point! They are trying so hard to be PC and use positive parenting and read up on what they should be doing, and get it SO wrong. I get the irony and find it very amusing. I think Andy Hamilton (the writer) is extremely clever on the ball.

My cousin and her dh are always ecstatic about family life, each other, the children, the 12 hour a day road trip holidays they do with their perfectly behaved children...they live in Canada so I have not been able to observe their parenting style much, but they seem never to have any behavioural or relationship problems at all!

Read 'How to talk so kids listen and listen so kids talk'
Its sooooo good. Me and DS (3) have a pretty easy life using it x

I know a few Outnumbered parents.

Their kids are , unfailingly, vile .

Outnumbered parenting is my default position I suppose. I try to be patient and calm and accepting. But never so earnestly. I take the piss a lot more. And also get Very Angry at times. And more importantly enjoy my kids more than they seem to.

Those poor Outnumbered parents... I've never seen such deluded parents ever in my life (have only watched the first 2 series I admit). They are lovely though. The children are cute, but bloody hard work.

Franca (hello btw!!) don't watch any more, it's crapola now. The best one now is the teen believe it or not. "Hilarious" Ben is now just totally totally wrongly "written". It's cringeworthy now sadly.