So Fucking Angry at what this man on a dating website just messaged me

[NotSuchASmugMarriedNow]

I am on a dating website and i messaged a man who lives near me to say hi and how come he didn't come to the singles meet-up we had in our area the week before as I'd have noticed him.

He messaged me back to say he'd have noticed me too and that the sprout pickers uniform would have been a dead-giveaway.

he specifically states on his profile that he is a good man - yes he does - he actually says that

some threads are just destined to go awry

I bet he wasn't meaning it as an insult

Maybe he was at the mixer and is offended that you didn't notice him or felt it was rude to ask why he didn't go. Or maybe he is just a dick.

Dating websites have a large number of rude and weird people on.

Oh he meant it as an insult.

Excellent, he is a twat and you don't need to waste another thought on him.

He doesn't come to meet ups as he gets his kicks from insulting women he wouldn't dare talk to in real life.

I wouldn't hive him any further thought, dating sites have their arseholes just like real life. Great when they can be spotted so easily.

Is the OP from Norfolk?

I would just ignore the tosser.

I agree with SM re the obtuseness - we are not all carrot crunchers are not all familiar with rural slang.

Is the OP from Norfolk?

I would just ignore the tosser.

I agree with SM re the obtuseness - we are not all carrot crunchers are not all familiar with rural slang.

I'm with havingabath, he's outed himself as an arse, well done for finding out so quickly. Moving on...

Opinions of people who are arses don't matter.

"At least I won't be bumping into you down the job centre."

"Oh, wait a minute, I remember... You were on Jeremy Kyle that time"

It sounds like he was trying to crack a joke and it went wrong. It's not clear from your post whether he is saying you would be wearing the uniform or he would. If this offends you then Internet dating is probably not suitable for you. Wait until the cock shots start pouring in.

It is a calculatedly horrible and spiteful thing to say.

Nasty beggar. Like others say best you find out right from the start, and you haven't wasted a date on the miserable bastard before finding out his nasty 'sense of humour'

lol i would have laughed my head off

But if it was said exactly as in the op, how can you tell whether he was referring to her or cracking a (bad) joke about himself?

Well no reason to wonder why he's single. Let this be a lesson OP - it may look like a lovely peach but have a rotten core.

urgh what a horrid comment.

you should introduce him to scottishmummy. They'd get on I think.

We have no way of knowing if he was trying to crack a joke or if he was being spiteful because we clearly don't speak your language.

If you are doing internet dating (which tends to involve communicating via email/instant messenger/etc) please do remember that not everyone you meet will understand your special local slang.

Ignore. Guy sounds like an immature loser. Move on and don't pay any attention.

Update

I messaged him back saying "your profile says that your a good man but a good man wouldn't make such an unkind comment"

and he has messaged me to say that his is very sorry but he left his laptop on and one of his friends must have done it "for a laugh"

Ho hum!

I'm gonna go with wife I think

Sprouts in Norfolk OI? /more like peas, oil seed rape and mustard

Ruddy hell

I'll just say - what SolidGold said ^ at this juncture.

Maybe you should send a message back saying 'Oh, so you were the one with webbed feet then?'
This is the mad sense of humour my dh has, it can be funny, but only when said in person, not in a message.

my auntie used to be a sprout picker

OP-perhaps he thinks you asking why he didn´t go was rude & he was replying with like rudeness?

Or he´s just "not that into you".

Not sure I´d have bothered to respond tbh.

He's a liar too