Put myself in a very vulnerable situation witha man a hardly know

[dangerousliaison]

I had sex with a friend of a friend, he seemed a nice guy got on well etc etc, however I had sex with him after being out. I was at his house alone and when I was going home he pretended to call me a taxi, he then pretended to call again half hour later and after another 15 mins I decided to call a different taxi number. He then admitted He had not called me a taxi in the first place as he wanted me to stay the night.

Obviously alarm bells now ringing and I feel I put my self in a very stupid and vulnderable position.

Now he is due to call me this evening and I want to make it clear to him that what he did was very wrong and worrying and alouthough admittedly I put myself in that position he had no right to do what he did. I just feel so angry that I put myself in that position in first place.

I'm a bit confused, not sure whether you had sex with him before or after he pretended to call for a cab, but either way he behaved in a way I would expect of an inexperienced teenager, not a grown man. Very odd. Just tell him straight that you think what he did was odd and creepy and for that reason, 'thanks but no thanks'.

i had sex with him before he pretended to call taxi

was he quite drunk too? just being a bit of a dick by the sound of it. It's okay though now because you don't have to see him again if you don't want to. I'd just say 'i've decided I don't want to pursue this further.'

do you feel a bit vulnerable because you slept with him and regret that? nothing wrong with a ONS. Put some taxi numbers into your own phone for future reference btw

So he wanted you to spend the night. He wasn't doing it to put you in a situation where you might be persuaded to sleep with him because you were stranded there. Hmm. Ok, I suppose his intentions were fairly harmless but it is still a bit of a dodgy thing to do. You had said you were ready to leave and it was not his place to try and trick you into staying. Creepy.

I just think that moment of realising he hadn't phoned for a taxi when he said he had would freak me out.

me too IB

he just txt me, am sorting dd out as for some bizzare reason she has decided it would be a good idea to strip off and play in paddling pool at this time of night. So I havent replied yet.

Ignore him. Do Not Reply.

dont reply. you dont want to continue any sort of relationship with him so dont give him any reason to think you are still interested.

I was going to just to let him know he was a bit of a wanker for what he did. But i wont, you are both right. I will resist all temptation.

I disagree, actually. I think you should tell him that his behaviour was unacceptable, and that it made you feel vulnerable, such that you don't want to see him again.

If he is a decent bloke, then you are telling him something he needs to know, and that he will want to learn.

If he isn't a decent bloke - well, you're making your point from your perspective and on your terms.

Oh my... well fwiw I don't think you owe him an explanation, but he might be one of those who keeps texting to get one, so maybe short and to the point could be good with "take care" on the end or a similar closing statement.

Hope you're OK op. what an arse.

If he is someone who you are likely to see socially again, then I think it is better to give him an explanation rather than ignore him.

Lets reverse the situation (and the gender) and imagine what the post could have been.

A woman likes a bloke, she takes him home with her, they have sex, he wants to bugger off as quickly as possible afterwards, she feels a bit used, she wants him to stay the night, so she pretends she has rung a cab, hoping that she can persuade him to stay the night, and is buying a bit more time. He gets fed up of waiting, making it clear he really wants to get out of there, so he rings the cab himself and scarpers. She texts him the next day to see if he fancies going out for a drink. He ignores her.

Now, if that had been posted on here, everyone would be saying what an utter wanker the bloke was....

he's a twerp at best.

i don't agree squeakytoy - i would think the woman was a twerp too.

there's something distinctly yucky about lying to get someone to stay with you. they should want to if you're good company.

maybe dont sleep with men you dont know?

#justsaying

possibly,however I didnt shag him and scarper. i did make it clear from the off that I wasnt staying the night. hmm But I would still think that alarm bells would go off had a woman done this to a bloke. I can put my finger on or describe what it says tbh, I also wasnt afraid at the time, more sop on reflection now at how the situation I was in could potentially not be safe, but also that this type of behaviour to me comes across as manipulative and controling and not very stable. either for male or female.

Lazilou, this isn't twitter.

I agree with BIWI.

This isn't Twitter? #shock

Decent guys don't lie. I think in your situation I would probably give him the reason, OP, but refuse to be drawn into further communication.

I think it's really odd that he didn't just say to you he would like you to stay the night. Hope you did ignore his call.