Would you divorce your Husband if he was like mine?

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After my Husband and I got married, (in which time I had left my home, family, job and friends), and moved in with him, (he lived three hours drive away), my hubby decided to tell me that he is paying his mothers mortgage, (his Dad died when he was 14, and his mother is now 90), which is £600 a month, and he has been paying this for approx 10 years). His brother owes him £100,000, most of which he will probably never see as he has no proof that he lent this money to his brother.

Because of him paying his mothers mortgage, we can never own a home of our own, so we end up in awful rented accomodation. He has no savings because he gave them all to his Brother.

Ok, generosity was one of the reasons that attracted me to my hubby, but this is ridiculous!

We now have a beautiful two year old Daughter, but we have only been out twice since she was born. He only bought me a present when it was our first christmas, all other occasions since, I have had to buy my own and ask him for the money.

He even forgot my Birthday last year!

WOULD YOU PUT UP WITH THIS?!!

We keep solving the rodent problem but she invites them back by feeding the birds outside the back door. My husband already has power of attorney but refuses to use it. Even though mil is senile she is also very crafty and manipulative. If social services were to go round, she would convince them that she was fine and everything was under control. She does it with the family. She phones her her sister in law and tell her that everything is awful and when we phone her, she tells us everything is fine and her telly needs tuning! Thats why we cant move in with her, it would be world war three! Her local council does have a duty to rehouse single women over 65, but as I mentioned before, she will not move under any circumstances, not even because it is nearly making us bankrupt!

Yes. But we can't tell you the answer to your question if we don't know if you love him.

Another thing I forgot to mention is that I am dyslexic, (takes ages to type this), and I have dyscalculous which means I don't do figures, which doesnt help in my situation! That why I leave as much of the financial stuff to hubby as I can.

I love him as the father of my daughter, and I am fond of him, but more in the way you would love/be fond of your Brother. Since I had our daughter the physical side of our relationship died. I was diagnosed with ME early this year, and I only have the energy to look after our daughter, and worrying about the finances just uses up more energy that I can ill afford to waste.

I do love himin a way, I guess but not in the way I used to, not since all this stuff with mil kicked off last year. I just feel used now. Our daughter is the only thing that keeps me going.