Dating thread 15! cock-cages, hopeful pensioners the occasional glorious success!

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apologies for title, I am bereft of ideas as the sodding times 'kindly' edited my profile for me.

watch hurray great news!

betty sorry, but I think he is just a bit odd, sounds as though you were perfectly polite. Block and move on!

Time re jobcentre cobblers you're too good for that. We need to get you a job as a life coach. Or worst case, in HR somewhere

The one vaguely serious relationship i had after the DCs dad, it took 18 months for him to meet the kids. This might have been slightly over-cautious...

I'm in two minds MLM, i dont know how old your DS is, so unsure whether he could walk in on you 'sleeping' with a male friend and i know DS knows this chap vaguely, but i'd maybe back things off a bit... Do you get time without Ds?

watch. 2nd date! :)!

Exactly the same here Sponge, I had a good job, had bought a house, money, a really nice life, very happy single parent to 3 children. I didn't even want a boyfriend but he wouldn't leave me alone. I didn't think I was a typical target either. These men are very clever though aren't they? On their best behaviour until they have wormed their way into your life.

Thanks time. I don't know how to block. I'm sure I won't hear from him again. It's a bit scary that a stranger would feel the need to be so personal. The level of defensiveness makes me think that someone isn't very balanced at all. It puts me off internet dating a bit, you don't really know whats waiting for you the other side.

Sponge, I would love a job as a life coach!!

betty - he was a mind fucker from the beginning, but you needed to learn that youself, hes a cock, you are not :)

so yeah - im all smiley and happy. Time - you did indeed.. you were right, as always :)

AND - he asked me on the same day as he met me, thats quite good isnt it, no waiting around for the phone or any angst. hurrah! ( and rather amazing)

The slight problem to this is im now not childfree until bank hol tuesday. Ive not had DD for two weekends, so am not going to give up any time with her... I could get a babysitter.... i know i could if i asked my mum, is it worth the hastle for a second date do you think?

TimeI think I was, on reflection, very naive - Ex was my first really serious relationship, I'd never been out with anyone for more than a few months prior to him. I thought the only kind of abuse was physical, and that it would be obvious, you know the guy who starts a fight down the local every Friday is the same one who then goes home and beats his wife. I thought I'd spot a man like that a mile away.

I like to think I am a little better at it now :)

I mean it re life coaching though, I think you'd be great. However it's probably not the sort of role they advertise in the Job Centre

It is good watch, it's bloody great! I am so happy for you. I think yes, on this occasion it is worth getting a babysitter. It is a second date, with a very nice man. I would go to the trouble of getting a babysitter for him. Then, you can shag see him again on Bank Holiday Tuesday. Perfect!!

My friend is a life coach and she's crazy :)

I was probably a bit the same Sponge. My ex was only my second relationship, I had been married for 12 years before I met him. And he seemed so gormless nice. No one would ever believe what he is really like. He even had me doubting myself!! They come in all different shapes and sizes sponge, mine wears a suit, drives a flash car and smells nice, not what you would imagine your typical abuser to look like.

No, I've not seen Life Coach advertised in the Jobcentre, there was a position for a Santa Claus at Christmas though so I suppose anything is possible

I'm a bit crazy betty. I'm not your typical 47 year old I like to be different.

I would be quite surprised if any shagging happens that quickly tbh. His ok cupid profile states clearly, on severl questions that it would take 5+ dates for him, and he wants more that ' just shagging'
So - i cant forsee any race....

I dont know, ill see what he says, depending on what we do,.. hes not replied to my last text yet.

but a second date, who would have thought!!!!!

Great news watch

Time you'd make a brilliant life coach but no you won't find one at the job centre I suspect the JC people send you on courses because they have to be seen to be doing something...what that something is is irrelevant.

I'm in a slightly different position to most on here in that my DC are 17 and 19 but I wouldn't be bringing anyone home until we'd had a few dates, possibly not even then, it would depend on how the dates went.

betty meant to say ditch the loser teacher, he's not worth it.

Right we need to find you a life coaching role somewhere. I might even find a job for myself!

The evil Ex is quite quiet and unassuming when you first meet him. Not the life and soul of the party unlike me. He likes to think he looks like Ray Winstone (he might to someone very partially sighted). He is in my house this evening . As part of the mediation he is getting a quote from a builder for all the work required - and has to be here because only he knows what work needs to be done controlling fuckwit. They have been here since 7pm . I am not impressed!

Betty, lucky escape, he sounds similar to my psycho from last year. If he does contact you I would send one message asking him to not contact you again (so he knows you don't want him to and can't argue ignorance) and then ignore everything after

Watch - yay!! Get a babysitter and go find out if he is someone worth getting to know

MLM - I hope you understand I wasn't trying to be mean. I have daughters near your age and I would tell them the same thing. We only want good things for you

Watch, I think he read sponges thread, that's where he got his 5 dates from

Chaotic the Jobcentre send me on courses because I nag them! I refuse to just go and sign for money, I want them to help me, this is all they can come up with . It drives me mad.

Chaotic - mine are 18-23 and I still wouldn't have a man overnight if they were here. I wouldn't be happy if they did it either. They know I date, one is on POF herself and we discuss our dates. I just wouldn't invade their home and privacy in that way and they wouldn't do it to me either

at 5 dates as per thread recommendation.

That thread did me no good of course, other than making me delete all my profiles (which may not be a bad thing). Oh, and attract yet another disappears after the first date weirdo.

Dear god, give me strength Ex and his builder are now rattling the bannisters to demonstrate they are not fitted properly .

They have only just finished the upstairs. I am not sure if I can put up with another hour of this!

That made me laugh Sponge. My ex is a quiet one too, he used to take a back seat and let me do the entertaining. When we first met he proudly told me that he had been told he was a dead ringer for Brian Connolly, the comedian. I looked at him, then looked at him again, like this but no, I couldn't see the resemblance myself. But Brian Connolly!!

Horrible for you that you have to have him in your house!!

Sponge that thread got me deleted for the very first time in my MN life! I got deleted a couple more times on a couple more threads after that so it started a trend!

And Sponge, what are these men doing in your house? Why are they looking for faults? Just go and get your nightie on and get into bed with a mug of cocoa, that should send out the message that it's time for them to leave!!

that was the worlds most weird thread ever. And my first deleted posts too. God awful advice it was. Like walking into the 1940's.

Sorry your ex is there sponge,hope they get on with it quickly..... :(

hes still not replied to my text... an hour on ???? if and when he askes when im free ill sort one out. Because what he said was basically that he really enjoyed hanging out with me and dystroying gingerbread men.. and would i like to do it again, not necessariyly in the same location, drinks, food items :)

i said that wouild be great, and how was the punchy balloon? and nada.
unless hes gone into band practice? he had it last night too because they have a big gig friday.

Watch, relax. You are over thinking. He has asked you for a second date, it's all good. You can afford to wait for his reply. You haven't got to know his 'pattern' yet, he might be a late night texter rather than an 'immediate' texter. Just give him a chance

I don't think I have ever been deleted

Time did he mean Billy Connolly?!

basically Ex is going round with the builder pointing out all the stuff that needs finishing off for his quote, as mediator asked we eah get an estimate of cost of outstanding work.

Builder just said to Ex 'haven't you decorated it well in here, lots of nice pictures and stuff'. I decorated every room, and everything was chosen by me! Ex just went 'yes thanks'. Twatface.

wow mr tall got seriously heavey on me, he text me yesterday morning, I hadn't replied all day and he started texting asking why am I ignorging him and messaged me on pof saying that I could have told him I didnt want to speak to him etc. And all this after not speaking to him for one day. so I text him today.

I told him as poiltly as possible that it wasnt going to go anywhere with us, and that we were moving at differnet paces etc, but good luck, hope it all goes well, he said you too.

And since then has come back to me saying I am his first ons and I should have given him a chance etc... and another message since. Not sure if I should reply or not?

I have nothing to say to him, i felt backed into a corner by him and suffocated. He might be saying nice things but it doesnt mean he is a nice person. He is pushy and too much.