Dating thread 15! cock-cages, hopeful pensioners the occasional glorious success!

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apologies for title, I am bereft of ideas as the sodding times 'kindly' edited my profile for me.

God help me if i do that.
I'm getting into enough 'trouble' by myself I don't need higher expectations working against me.

This being single business has unleashed my inner flirt and it's gaining control bit by bit!!

Evening :)

Welcome to childofIsis

All my profiles are hidden and will remain so for now. I'm sick to death of the lack of effort these men make. I mean do they really think a "Hi" is going to impress or maybe they're just delusional enough to think that they're sooooooooooooooo good looking...not that we'll be dropping our knickers from just that and a pic. I have been single for 12 years now, yes, 12 years, that's not a typo and quite frankly I'll stay single for another 12 years rather than go out with some of these.

mini rant over.

Well I've had a long skype call with the photo sender.
He's ok really, made me laugh lots which is compulsary in my book.
We're going to meet on friday half way between our towns.

So we'll have to see what comes of it.

Evening! Wow this thread moves fast! Laughing at the cock pictures I haven't yet dipped my toe in the Internet dating minefield. In fact as I live abroad I'm not really sure what id use. Where do you all find the time as well???? I have two DCs and I probably have 1 night off fully every 2 weeks - don't think I'd have time for a boyfriend let alone to shave for them WAtch.

Nb how do you do bold with the MN app???

Meanwhile there continues to be some kind of frisson with the Student...quite enjoyable.

Ps childofisis I am in awe of needing a spreadsheet!!!

I'm sure it's just that my face is new on the site really.
It does seem to take up a fair bit of time when I should be working though.

If I didn't work p/t from home I don't think I'd be able to fit it all in.

I do have at least one night a week without DD so can plan ahead fairly accurately.

Yes I can imagine it would be dangerous to have Internet dating at work!!

After a few years on my own (aged 50) I decided to try internet dating and, like so many of you here, felt absolutely depressed and sure that I would never, ever meet anyone again. Two limp, boring meetings for a drink confirmed all my worst fears and my increasing sexual frustration only made things desperately worse.

By chance I happened to come across a man with a 'kink'. I can't explain why but I knew I wanted to try something different and something I had briefly thought about but never acted on. I realise that kink/bdsm/fetish may not be for everyone, but the encounter opened my eyes and I have not looked back. I am attending clubs and have made some brilliant, kind, wonderful friends as well as meeting the love of my life. My sex life is unlike anything I have ever had before and I love the openness and honesty that I had been searching for without being aware of previously.

For a previously overlooked, frumpy, worn out, cynical bag I am now svelte, laughing, brimming with sexual confidence and having an absolute ball. No, it's not for everyone but even if one of you is interested and gives it a go, then this post will be worth it. Of course, like in any venture, be careful, be sensible and check people out first. But if you are prepared to take the leap you could be pleasantly surprised. One thing is certain the 'hi babe, wanna meet, lol' e-mails will never darken your door again and the cock pics will be replaced by rope bondage artistry but it's a lot more interesting in my book!

I needtogrowapair- most of us only have every other weekend too. I certainly do. But I don't work Tuesdays... So can do somethihg in someones lunch hour, like today.
The plus side to this is the date is short if its awful. The downside to this is the date is short if its good :)

Mrscynical. While im.temped to say nice troll post there.... I won't. And Will accept it on face value. Kink has bugger all to do with finding a boyfriend. Kink is just sex, all of us could get that if that was all we wanted. But we are looking for more than that.
Strangely, having dabbled myself, I didn't instantly become thinner, and I'd say I recieved far more cock pics, and worse. I also did not find a boyfriend. I found a lot of men wanting me for kink reasons ( interesting the pensioner attention doesn't go away) but not for any other reason. It wasn't actually me they were interested in. I.also have friends on the sceen. And interesting all of them ( men) are long Time singles too.

Watchout - I can assure you I am not a troll. I am just putting out an alternative option which has worked, so far, successfully for me.

Maybe because underneath I have always been a bit of a rebel it suits me. Maybe because I am very openminded it suits me. Maybe because I have reached an age where I really don't care any more it suits me. Maybe because the thought of normal penetrative sex doesn't turn me on any more it suits me.

I am not in my twenties or thirties and hoping for a big wedding and already have grown up kids. I did all the 'normal, expected couple/marriage' thing and although I had great times I found myself divorced, kids flown the nest and most of my friends already in relationships. I wanted something different, something social, something sexual. I'm heading towards to my mid fifties but find myself having the best time ever. I'm purchasing leather corsets, rubber skirts and sexy lingerie. I'm being chatted up. I'm finding that I'm quite popular (not just with men). I admit I always fancied a bit of kink so maybe that's why it's working for me and would not work for 99% of the women here.

Just my take on things re dating that's all. Take it or leave it.

Watch Just came on to say have a lovely lunch date, hope it goes really well and that he is as fascinating in real life as he is on his profile . Can't wait for the update!!

Mrscynical I'm pleased 'kink' worked for you but I will stick to low carb to maintain my figure, thanks

There's more to 'kink' than the outfits though isn't there? Like that man who wanted to spank me? See, I don't like pain.

Oh TimeFor, it is only, what us British like to say, a bit of slap and tickle. I don't like pain either but a bit of spanking is hardly 'real pain'. I find it incredibly erotic and a major turn on.

Yes, it's more than the outfits but putting on the outfits (or rather someone else dressing you) is all part of the role play and, in my opinion, leads to highly charged and lengthy sessions - not just of sex (optional actually) but of incredibly exciting arousal.

Had lots of flirty texts with my photo sender after our call last night.
He's certainly keen; which has a charm all of it's own; and seems to have had a very busy life.
Quite looking forward to meeting him, he was better looking on skype than on his profile and he makes me laugh, so we'll have to see.

He does live a bit too far to be 'boyfriend' material though.
I may ask him what he thinks of rubber corsets etc, he may blow a gasket!

Mrs- I may or may not have all of those items you mention already :) I may or may not have been to fetish clubs in London :) I may or may not experienced all you have said, and then some. And I'm only in my 30's and not wanting a big wedding.... I am also very sexually confident.SHOCK!!!! .

I think you are making the mistake that many kinksters do, by thinking anyone not practising the same is up tight and repressed and thats really not the case.

I dont mind a bit of kink ( as above) but the problem I've found is it becomes that the kink is the thing that gets them off rather than ' you' and while it can all be incrediably fun and exciting. I don't think its any a better way of finding a long term partner.
Each to their own though..

Time, yeah. Date will be over by 1, I might shop a little, but will be home by two to update.

I'm not uptight and repressed, but I don't like being 'spanked'. The Ex would do that to me and I found it degrading, but that could be because it was an abusive relationship, maybe? I might be open to it with the right partner, someone who I trusted and felt comfortable with, I don't know. I like sexy lingerie though. Each to their own, that's what I say

Watch I shall be poised by the laptop from 1pm onwards!

Morning :)

watch good luck for today. I have to go on a first aid course so won't be back until afternoon so will check in then for update.

I have to say it amuses me that some seem to think that if you try 'a bit of kink' then you're open minded but if it doesn't appeal you're not. I'm open minded but there are certain things that simply don't appeal, anal sex for one, that doesn't mean I won't try other things.

Watch look forward to your update later :)

Is my first day back at work today. I had 130 emails to read. My colleagues asked me about my party. I couldn'be be bothered to lie so told them it was crap. Cue 30 seconds of faux sympathy, after which my colleague who turned 50 the day after me (and didnt even reply to the invitation to my party!) spent 20 minutes telling everyone how fantastic her birthday was, all the expensive presents she got and how everyone made such a fuss of her

I seriously need a new job.

Morning Chaotic Just wanted to say, yes, I totally agree with you! Have fun on your first aid course.

Chaotic, I agree too :) hence the post.
It's a stance lots of people in the sceen take and It's rubbish :)

Sponge :(,

Am a little bit excited about my date. And I got a compliment on how lovely my hair was looking this morning ( despite being too skint to have it done since Feb )
So, yay me!

Sorry Sponge, I missed your post! Get your CV sorted and start putting it out there, you never know, new job might bring you a new man!

Watch, I'm excited for you! He does seem really nice on paper, let's hope he's as good in the flesh!

I can't imagine anything worse than dating another lawyer. Not that it would happen anyway because male lawyers dont fancy me (although the feeling is mutual!). CV is all ready to go, trouble is I am in an area of law where most of the jobs are at the bottom, and stuff at my level comes up very rarely - literally 2 jobs so far this year.

Today is a somewhat glass is half empty day...

Well Sponge, sat here, unemployed, after sending out my CV to zillions of companies, I can safely say I would be happy to start at the bottom of anywhere.

Time I can understand that :) Whilst I am grateful in the current climate to have a job, it doesn't stop me hating the one I have, but also being unable to leave other than for something with a similar salary (due to my ridiculously large mortgage which I couldnt afford to pay otherwise) :(