I have just got together again with an ex boyfriend - I think I've always loved him in a way and him me. We've both grown up and had families of our own and now are single again. For the past year we've been meeting up as old friends. I find his personality so attractive and love spending time with him. He's intelligent, kind and gentle. I know that he's in love with me. The problem is he's very overweight. We spent the night together on Saturday and it was wonderful but sexually I won't find him attractive physically unless he loses weight.
I don't know what to do, I honestly feel that we should be together. I have a big problem in that I desperately need to give up smoking so I'm certainly not perfect myself. I'm tempted to be honest and say that we both need to do this - me give up smoking and him lose weight (a lot) for our health but not say about finding it unattractive. Do you think I should do this?