I have been married for 5 years and have a 3 years old DS. We moved to the UK 1.5 years back following H's transfer within his organisation. H works in international sales and tours 3-4 days a week. I am a SAHM right now.
For a long time now I am feeling disconnected with H. Nothing specific, just a gut feeling that something is off. Around the same time I found myself lurking on relationship threads on mumsnet.
Today morning, while searching something on his laptop, I came across several searches he made while in Brussels looking for prostitutes, strip clubs and massage parlours near his hotel. I confronted him and he dismissed me by saying that he was simply curious and it doesn't mean anything. He also blamed me for being interfering and wrecking his relaxed Sunday morning.
He says that it is just a regular guys thing and there is nothing unusual about him seeking this information.
H spends a disproportionate time watching online porn, even I would say, at the expense of our normal sex life. We have had several bitter arguments about this and he knows my views on this, but continues nevertheless.
Even on the eve of our anniversary (we had booked into a resort), when I was trying to have a special time with him, he sat away and continued to fiddle with his laptop.
He also has this habit of compulsively lying and can be very manipulative and sneaky when he wants to be. Every argument we have ends up in me apologising and making up even if I am the one who has been offended.
Please advise what I should do now? How do I establish whether he has been having sex with prostitues? Is my marriage over. I don't have any close friends and family in England and there is no one I can turn to.
Right now I am shaking all over and can't stop crying. And my H is in the other room accusing me of being melodramatic and spoiling our family time.
I just feel so alone. I don't even have enough money to book tickets and go back to my parent's home which is in another country. Please help!!!