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Date coming up.....

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Lovemy3kids · 17/04/2012 21:37

Short but advice needed as not sure what I should do.

Met a guy online, we started chatting, we swapped mobile numbers and have been texting. We have agreed to meet in a week, but the last time he text me was Sunday and I have not heard from him since. We usually text each day and I am not sure if I should leave it for him to contact me, or if I should contact him. New to the dating scene and not sure what to do.....any advice?

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hashope · 17/04/2012 21:41

You have arranged to meet in a week so as far as your concerned you still are!
I would text and say hi, how are you? If he texts you back arrange a place and a time if he doesnt text you back then you move on to the next. You have nothing to lose here :)

beatenbyayellowteacup · 17/04/2012 21:42

Nah I'd say wait for another day or two and he'll probably text you. Otherwise you can text on Thursday.

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Lovemy3kids · 17/04/2012 21:43

Thanks hashope-wasn't sure if I would come across as being a bit "needy" or "keen" if I contacted him first but like you say, I have nothing to loose :)

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Lovemy3kids · 17/04/2012 21:45

Ok.....beatenbyayellowteacup....your post came in as I was typing mine! You reckon I should leave it until Thursday....ok....can I ask why?

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shoegal34 · 17/04/2012 21:48

Who was the last person to text? If it was him then definitely send him a text. If it was you then follow beaten's approach :-)

Best of luck x

beatenbyayellowteacup · 17/04/2012 21:50

Just my experience really - guys text a lot, but once there's an arrangement in place, they relax a bit and just assume it's all ok. It hasn't ever meant that they'd lost interest, just were out with mates or doing something or other once they'd bagged an actual date.

It's only Tuesday, you're meeting next Sunday? Or did I misread that?

If you're meeting him earlier than Sunday, text a day or two before the date. It should be all still cool - if not, he's not particularly reliable anyway

hashope · 17/04/2012 21:50

You havnt spoken in a few days and its just a text to say hey?
Another day wont harm I guess but its just a day and its also just a quick text ;)

Fairenuff · 17/04/2012 21:51

Have you actually spoken to him, or has it all been text? And have you thought about all the usual safety aspects of meeting someone you've only spoken to 'online', such as telling someone where you're going, public place, etc.

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Lovemy3kids · 17/04/2012 21:52

I was the last person to text shoegal34.

We're meeting in a week but no actual time and place has been set up yet...not a good sign??

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Lovemy3kids · 17/04/2012 21:53

fairenuf we are meeting in the day and I will text my friend where I am going to be and from what time so someone knows where I am.

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Fairenuff · 17/04/2012 21:54

Ah ok, well I guess I would leave it til two days before then send a text to say are we still on for sunday and wait and see what he says.

shoegal34 · 17/04/2012 21:59

If you text last let him make an effort and text you. I know the limbo is horrible, we've all been there. If you haven't heard, then maybe text Thursday saying 'Hey, how are you doing? Are we still on for meeting?"

I'll keep my fingers x you get a nice text soon :-)

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Lovemy3kids · 17/04/2012 22:02

Thanks shoegal34 and thanks every one :)

I will leave it a few more days and see if I hear anything x

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beatenbyayellowteacup · 17/04/2012 22:03

I agree with shoegal34 and Fairenuff.

Don't worry too much about the time and place, you've agreed to meet, he should respect that. It's annoying waiting though - let us know how it works out!

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Lovemy3kids · 17/04/2012 22:05

Will do beatenbyayellowteacup :)

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izzyizin · 17/04/2012 22:11

I suggest you wait until the end of the week and, if you haven't heard, send a simple ''Hope all's well with you' text.

If he responds with an implausible reason why he hasn't been in touch cross him off your 'to do' list.

shoegal34 · 18/04/2012 21:20

Did you hear yet Lovemy3kids?

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Lovemy3kids · 19/04/2012 08:51

No still not heard :(. Not sure whether to just leave it now....my thinking is if he was interested he would contact me....wouldn't he??

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shoegal34 · 19/04/2012 13:12

Go with izzy's advice above? You've got nothing to lose by sending one more text. If he doesn't make the effort from there then forget him and move on to someone nicer :-)

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Lovemy3kids · 19/04/2012 13:20

I will leave it until tomorrow and if I still haven't heard I will take Izzy's advice n send a simple txt....will keep you posted :)

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shoegal34 · 19/04/2012 17:29

Good plan :-) x

beatenbyayellowteacup · 19/04/2012 18:54

Just popping in to say I agree with the plan - sorry been at work. Good luck!

ImperialBlether · 19/04/2012 22:53

Don't text him! Ffs woman, if he can't be bothered, then YOU can't be bothered! Leave it, now.

SerendipitousHarlot · 19/04/2012 23:07

I agree with Imperial Blether. Fuck him. NEXT!!

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Lovemy3kids · 20/04/2012 06:53

Oh ok....was going to text later today but now having read the last too comments...I'm not so sure :(. Oh I don't like this dating/meeting new people lark....it's soooo hard to know what to do!!!!

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