Would you date this man if you knew his history?

[kerbear]

Hi MNers.....if you met a guy and he told you the following about his past, would you carry on seeing him?

He had affairs whilst with his first wife, left her for his mistress, carried on sleeping with first wife. Eventually cut all ties with first sife and remained with mistress. They got married, had 2 children together but he had been unfaithful to her twice too. She then left him when she found out he had been contacting another woman. They separated, slept together on a few occasions and then he got involved with another woman, and carried on sleeping with his ex and the new woman. His ex found out that he had been lying and cheating again.

If you knew all this.....would you want to be with him??

No.

I wouldn't :(

Hell no!

Ummm NO!

Is this your ex?

Emmmm NO.

Why do you ask?

no.

I am not deluded enough to think I might be that special he'd stop being a dick just for me.

Why do you even need to ask this question??

(The answer is NO!)

Most women wouldn't in theory, however in reality women will carry on with a relationship even if warned of his past.

My ex was a cocklodger who shagged prostitutes behind my back. It's common knowledge but he's still off playing happy families with another woman. He's still mucking about on dating websites at the very least. Sad.

I'm afraid I just wouldn't be able to trust him, which is sad because I thought I believed in giving people a second chance but he either has a high sex drive or has commitment issues of some sort. I'd be concerned that he might do the same thing to me or that he wouldn't be able to speak to me if he felt he needed to be with someone else.

no, id run a mile

Nope.

absolutely NOT

Tempting...does he have all his own teeth?

He sounds lovely

I think you already know your answer!

I wouldn't touch him with someone else's bargepole!

imo, someone tells you this about themselves so that when they do it to you, they can say well, you knew that this was me when you agreed to begin a relationship with me.

Maybe in my younger days but i wouldn't touch him with a barge pole now.

No

But

I cheated on everyone i met before DH because i didnt care for them and they werent the right person for me. Ive never cheated on DH because i love him and would never want to lose him.

I ask because yes....he is my ex....and he has been involved with 2 women since we separated - the 1st woman knew all this, was told that we were still sleeping together, and still carried on seeing him. Then she was told some other things and she then dumped him. Within a week he got involved with another woman, who he is still seeing, she knows all of the above and STILL wants to be with him (she kicked her husband out last year as he was unfaithful to her and she has 2 young girls) and I cannot understand as to why she'd want to build a relationship with him. Is she under the illusion that he WILL change for her? It took me years to realise that he was never going to change and to summon the courage to leave him. Leopards.....spots!!!

don't forget he tells it with his spin on it
and is probably v charming etc

She's where you were though, can't you see that?

If it took you years, it's probably going to take her a while too

''..and I cannot understand as to why she'd want to build a relationship with him.''

But why do you care OP?

MustControlFistOfDeath ....I know I shouldn't care about it and I'm not 100% sure why I am allowing it space in my head but it's there :(. He is also putting this woman first and sacrificing time he could spend with our children to spend it with her.

Sounds like you're well rid (but you already know this)

It's like you said, she probably thinks she will be the one to change him. We've all been brought up on a diet of Disney- and mills and boon type romance, where the rough diamond turns into a real gem- and sometimes it's hard for us ladies to recognise that we really can't change our man!