Would you date this man if you knew his history?

[kerbear]

Hi MNers.....if you met a guy and he told you the following about his past, would you carry on seeing him?

He had affairs whilst with his first wife, left her for his mistress, carried on sleeping with first wife. Eventually cut all ties with first sife and remained with mistress. They got married, had 2 children together but he had been unfaithful to her twice too. She then left him when she found out he had been contacting another woman. They separated, slept together on a few occasions and then he got involved with another woman, and carried on sleeping with his ex and the new woman. His ex found out that he had been lying and cheating again.

If you knew all this.....would you want to be with him??

No. I would not.

Not in a million years

So were you the first wife? Or the first mistress?

THing is, not everyone is interested in monogamy. Someone who has no desire for a monogamous relationship might decide to have a sexual relationship with such a man if he was good looking, charming and a good shag. ANd there would be no harm done.

Mistress...2nd wife. He wasn't so honest with me about his past...his 1st wife told me that. Yes I know I was wrong to get involved when I knew he was married.

There is a lot wrong with lack of honesty though, solid.

If someone wants multiple partners - they should say so. That gives the other person the opportunity to decide whether that's the relationship they want. But mostly people don't do that. They lie and hide and cheat, while maintaining the pretence that they are monogamous. That is wrong.

i wouldn't touch him with a shitty stick

Have I got this right? You were one of the ow he had while married to his first wife and despite knowing that he was sleeping with his wife, you continued your affair with him.

After a tug-of-war with his first wife you eventually secured the prize and, in marrying you, he created a vacancy for a new mistress.

So far, so Camilla.

But when what goes around came your way, you left him and carried on sleeping with him despite knowing that he was regularly shagging his new mistress.

The new mistress bowed out, whereupon he took up with another whose h had been unfaithful to her.

Even without taking into account the 4 dc who are casualties of their dps sexual casuality, by my reckoning there is sufficient material here to titilate viewers of the JK show.

If you're proposing to replace your ex with a new model, I would suggest you check your pelt for signs of zits before embarking on another sexual liaison.

The best predictor of future behaviour is past behaviour.

no

He's obviously skilled in lying/deception so whilst the women might have some details of his sordid past they may also struggle with accepting the reality. I'm sure he must be convincing.

I think alot of people are attractive to the personality/physical appearance of a partner rather than the character of the person. It seems an old fashioned view but it's a person's character traits (integrity, honesty and loyalty) that make a relationship work.

DH's ex is a similar type of person to this, she has cheated in each of her marriages however she is about to marry again and her new partner believes he will be the special one. It would be fine if these adults didn't have children but sadly there are lots of children involved so the fallout from these disastrous relationships impacts so many little lives.

So you were the mistress? What goes around.........