Things you do for OH to show them you care

[LapOfTheGods]

Just wondering what kinds of things you've done recently for your partner to show them you love them...

Oh, and being completely non-wibbly about the fact that in a week he's doing the other 4.5 months of the leave with our 4 month old pfb.

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Lap, it's funny but I only find this stuff comes naturally when I really like someone.

I don't always find it easy. It depends who it's for. Some men, I can't be bothered, or just don't want to or it's too difficult to get it right, or I know they don't like me doing it.

But being with DP makes me want to do stuff I'd normally hate. Bit weird but it isn't hard work.

Mines' been away for a week and I miss him not being in our bed

It's the best thing ever when he's here. (sorry)

Flightty - that's exactly the same as me.

I would never ever have done half the stuff I do for DP for my ex.

But with DP it's not a hassle or a bother.

I should add, he does as much, probably more, for me.

Small stuff, not big grand gestures.

I think I've just been really focused on ds as he has had some issues... Oh got sidelined and I became quite selfish in order to get through the tough times. Trying to reinstate a balance. Also, I've never really been a giver... Too scared of rejection, but oh is different and I trust him so trying to be more open with my affections. If that makes sense.

Hathor yes exactly.

Your post about helping him sleep made me well up

We've been together 5 yrs and had some big challenges with ds, but it's all looking rosy :)

I've been trying to persuade everyone to listen to me tell all about when we got back together ....

Wanna hear?

Basically, I realised today how he really felt, he's not a big talker but I found a song he had written in the shed about me. Basically, he doesn't feel worthy of me and I've affected his self esteem, which I never wanted to do.

Want to hear it :)

Well since you asked and all

(He's ace I love him to bits I'm very very lucky)

We had been together and split for stupid reasons - I was very busy, he was very busy, we just didn't have time - but we stayed friends. Used to see each other occasionally socially and chat and laugh and stuff and text and phone each other every day but no romance . And I mean every single day. And he always texted me night at bedtime.

(I should add one of my best friends was always going on at me about us being perfect together and how we should get back together)

So I was a bit stressed with life the universe and everything and he asked me down for a DVD and take away night. Just as friends. Nothing more.

Cue much much much angst and many phone calls to my friend about "OMG will he make a move on me? I don't think I want him to. OMG what if he doesn't fancy me does he fancy me will he want to shag me OMG what if what if what if "

So, down goes I to his house. Determined, after many late night phone calls to mate that I was JUST going for a DVD and a takeaway and there was no sex on the agenda and I was reading the signs all wrong.

Knock the door. He opens the door. I step in. He kisses me before the door is even shut.

We adjourn upstairs.

Afterwards, we are lying in bed and he brings me a and as he's handing it to me (and I'm still dozy in bed) he says

"if you reach your hand out your bar of chocolate is on the bedside table"

I said "you were confident"

He just laughed.

:) lovely story. So good to hear people in love on mn! ;)

I like a nice story :)

I bought him dark chocolate for Valentines even though I don't like it so I wouldn't even be able to steal any.

It was just.. I love chocolate. Galaxy. He always has a bar in the fridge for me.

And it was just the way he said it as he handed me the tea.

Hard to explain

hath ahhh that's so lovely, the kissing even before you'd got fully in the door :)

Totally off topic, I just LOVE that scene in "Love Actually" when Kiera Knightly kisses the bloke who's been in love with her forever (after he's done the placard bits at her door). Love it when he says as he walks away "Enough now. Enough"

Just tugs at my strings

i know i am just totally jealous and bitter and twisted but really some of the things on this thread make me want to puke. no-one whether dh or anyone has ever done anything remotely like any of these for me... (must stick to the angsty bad relationship threads not the happy ones as will never be able to contribute)

I never ever did any of that sort of stuff with my ex.

he couldn't even tell you, after 20 years, how I took my fucking tea never mind make me one.

I just stepped in the door, he hugged me, I looked up at him, and that was that, we kissed, fireworks, romance, the whole she-bang all in one package.

(Please note I am 42 I really didn't expect stomach flipping rip his clothes off attraction to anyone I've never had it ever ever in my life)

I listen to him without any interruption when he goes on ( for ages ) about his new(ish) hobbies.He's recently retired and has thrown himsef into these.I also give a decent BJ.because I really do love him.

I'm still here.

No, sorry, more seriously, I bake. DH likes a cake (or 8) so I bake. TBH I enjoy baking and like it even more when he likes the end result. I also like to keep the house tidy and clean, which sounds a bit victorian, but it's lovely when I've finished cleaning and then he comes in and is all pleased. (He does stuff as well by the way, but also works full time).

I suppose I'm an old fashioned girl really and it's the small things I do that make him happy, that make me happy!

I'm making millionaires shortbread, mars bar crispies, malteser tray bakes and choc cornflake crispies for sunday

pantaloons, completely agree, it's the small things :)

Millionaires shortbread is sure to hit the spot!

yummy, pretty much every bloke I met until oh when I was 28, wasn't worth it... Only takes one to make you happy.

I run his bath water every night for him, so that it's all ready and waiting for his arrival (with bubbles) good wife that I am

My ex wasn't worth it! And I wouldn't have done half for him what I do without even thinking for DP.