How would you feel if a close realtive nosed about in your house?

[ChaosTrulyReigns]

A close relative of mine came round yesterday and had a crafty look in a bag of shopping that I had left hanging on the kitcchen door.

She then accidentally dropped into conversation that she knew what was in the bag and I called her on it.

Would you be fuming at this or would you jusy accept it as natural and acceptable curiosity within a family?

It wouldnt bother me if it was a bag of shopping, it would annoy me if she was going into drawers or cupboards.

It's not really nosing about in your house is it? If I found a relative unexpectedly inspecting the contents of drawers and cupboards then yes, I'd be very annoyed. Looking into a shopping bag is fairly normal curiosity, I'd have thought.

I don't have many rellies. The only ones' to drop around my house are my grown up ds and dd. And if they had looked in my shopping bag...I don't think I would be that bothered. But they are my children...and if they had looked in my handbag,then that would be very different.

No it's not really in my house.

But it was inside a carrier bag. What's the harm in asking to have a look?

Depends where the shopping was from - Waitrose, no issue at all, Ann Summers or similar then yeah I'd be miffed but wouldn't leave that stuff lying around anyway

Would depend on our usual relationship and her reasons for doing so I guess.

I'm confused , are there 2 chaostrulyreigns ?

The bag wouldn't bother me. To me it's not nosing in your house.

What was in the bag?

I always look in my mums shopping , to see what shes bought

Chaos is truly reigning, what's going on?

I wouldn't be happy tbh.

It was a babygrow in a H&M bag.

I mentioned the NDNs had a newborn and she said "Oh is that what the baby clothes are for then" And had a total OhShitI'veJustDroppedMyselfInIt face.

I asked her why she'd looked in the bag "Oh I thought it ws my bag and was just checking" - yes, a quick glance inside would have established that, wouldn't it?

Sigh.

It really wouldnt bother me at all. If I had something that I didnt want people to see, I would have put it away upstairs.

Did she have a H&M bag with her when she came in?

Nope, Bella.

Zackerlee.

mini [fume]

Nope, it's still me usual.

That would have been the worst sockpuppeting evah.

I wouldn't mind my family, but DP's dad has been told off several times for raking through my stuff. He was sat at the kitchen table reading my bank statements once .

The man is a total pillock and very nosey and interfering. He's also quite hurtfull, he read the bank statements a few years ago and I had a lot of money at that time. I don't now, in fact we are struggling and still at every moment he can he will say I'm tight and I should get xyz done rather than being selfish and sitting on my money.

I wouldnt really be happy, but that might be because my MIL is a bugger for snooping! She went upstairs in out house to use bathroom, I heard door open again, but she didn't appear. I went to bottom of stairs to see where she was and saw her coming out of DS bedroom & going into ours. I have also found her going through a pile of my (clean) washing. She also looks in shopping bags, and on one occasion took out the soft toy that was inside, pulled off the tags, & handed it to DS. Unfortunately it wasn't for him, it was a gift for a friend's DS. She wasn't overly bothered when I told her, just laughed it off.

I'd hate it. I'd have to say something really snarky, like "Can I help you with anything?" or "Would you like a quick look through my bank statements while you're at it?" or "Right, well, round to yours so I can have a rummage, I think" or just plain "stay out of my things, you nosy cow"

I am very anal about my personal space.

Probably a little bit too much. I HATE anyone coming in my house (family included) and having a nose. As I have being getting work done I have shown visitors around to see the finished rooms to satisfy their curiosity and to show it off but I don't like people just nosying for no reason. My dad and his wife have key to my house to check on my dog when I'm at work and so they can nip in to use toilet. (they drive for a living) but noone else would get a key. I have a lot of trust in my dad and step mam not to go through my things, I know they wouldn't. I know instantly if anyone has been in the house when I'm out. Occasionally dad would mess on with my cupboards in the kitchen and turn things round to face the wrong way etc but I love my dad so its ok. I can laugh about it. [bugrin]

You say close relative? I think that close rely's might say "Ooh what have you been buying?" , and go to have a look. That's what I would probably say if I saw a clothes shop bag. But I don't believe that my mum or daughter or v close cousin would look into a bag when I wasn't there, nor would I.

I think it's out of order OP and I wouldn't trust them in anything else. Odd behaviour.

This would make me all stabby.

Cleave the bastard.

When I saw you mention babygrows, dearest Chaosy, I thought you were going to stun us with news of your awesome fecundity

When I was young and lived at home, my stepfather nosed around my room and found my payslip, when I was part-qualified, and working shifts and overtime.

He then instigated a row about how unfair it was that a young man like me was earning so much, when he's been working his fingers to the bone as an Art Teacher for years etc etc etc.