How would you feel if a close realtive nosed about in your house?

[ChaosTrulyReigns]

A close relative of mine came round yesterday and had a crafty look in a bag of shopping that I had left hanging on the kitcchen door.

She then accidentally dropped into conversation that she knew what was in the bag and I called her on it.

Would you be fuming at this or would you jusy accept it as natural and acceptable curiosity within a family?

I'd never have called him a "close" relative though.

JustHecate

My mother accused me of having a nose in her wardrobe once. To be fair, I was, but it was MY wedding dress I was nosing at. It was a bit hard to miss a big frothy dress in her wardrobe, and as it was from my wedding to my XH I do wonder why the heck she still has it! I should have taken it out right then and set fire to it.

My mother does this. She has an incredible radar for any bits of paper that might be "of interest", even when they are hidden under other papers or in amongst things. I have learned that I have to keep anything I do not want her to see in a locked box. It's really sad. She just does not understand the concept of a child having privacy from his/her parents and sees nothing wrong with her behaviour (though does deny it when directly confronted).

If you cannot keep this person out of your house then just make sure you have put away anything you do not want him/her to see. And, of you can, feel sorry for them that they have so little else in their life that snooping around like this is even of any interest.

I have a DM that, very kindly, babysits/house-sits when I have to travel away from home on business. I know she ferrets about because I find things moved around and rearranged. Occasionally things that have been put in charity bags and bins get rescued, but it's not worth getting annoyed about. Recently however, because of something she let slip, I discovered she had been reading a letter from my mortgage company. She was left in no doubt that, job or no job, she wouldn't be welcomed back if she ever read my private correspondence again. There are limits.