I brief, married to DH for 5 years, together for 7. 2 DC 3 and 4 YO. DH has had 'dalliances' in the past - 5 that I know of that range from joining inappropriate dating sites, porn use and snogging two women whilst drunk when out. He got a contract to work in Oz for 12 months so we decided I would leave my demanding job and we would take this amazing opportunity to live overseas and focus on the kids, the marriage and having a great time as a family.
Now I am not proud of this but I do snoop when his behaviour concerns me. For the last number of weeks he has been going for drinks after work - his job is extremely stressful here - and coming home at 8 ish 2 or 3 times a week. Drunk. He says he talks to clients and has to 'network'. I look at his work phone, to put my mind at rest, and each time there has been nothing to worry about (you can prob tell what's coming). But last Wednesday I found he had text a woman at work saying how he felt so relaxed in her company, had never felt this way before and that there was more than friendship. Ended with a X.
I confronted him immediately. He said that yes, it was was becoming more than a working relationship, and that's why he wanted to go back to the uk in May (sooner than I want but he said the job was really stressing him out).
So, despite doing all the cooking, cleaning, looking after the DC and having sex as much as his heart desires, he still lets this happen.
So my next move is... Stay here with him despite there being no trust for the sake of the 'family' (and I do love it here), or go back to the uk, house is still empty ready to move straight back in but kill him in the process as the kids are his life.
Oh bollocks.