H just walked out

[goingmadinthecountry]

Well stropped really. It's supposed to be our 24th wedding anniversary on Monday.

I only tried to stop him because we'd had wine and he went off in the car. Would have probably packed his bags otherwise

That's a bit of a shit. What happened? You okay?

How much has he had?

So is he driving over the limit?

Did you have any idea this might happen?
Where has he gone do you think?
And why is he in a strop?

Eeeek for you! :(

I'm fine thanks - was a non row really about him not putting clothes away. He looked really mad and stropped off - just like his dad. I'm not really sure how I'm feeling though.

He stropped off because you want him to put his clothes away....!
There must be more to it than that surely?

Im glad you are coping ok - the night my ex h walked out with no warning I was a mess!

Probably not much over the limit though I never drink anything at all when I'm driving. He said he's off to a hotel - I only tried to stop him to get him to call a taxi. I really did try.

If that's enough to mke him strop..lock the door and have a good nights sleep!

He has got more and more arsey over the last few years and I just had enough of doing laundry with it ending up on the floor. He definitely over-reacted tonight!

Am remarkably calm - just thinking the longer term stuff about the house and dcs doing A levels and GCSEs this year. In a way maybe I'm not too upset because I don't think we have much of a future together. However we do have 4 children, the youngest of whom is 8. That's really hard. Don't know how I'll feel if he turns up all apologetic in the morning.

Have deadlocked the doors!

Going to bed..hope you can too! Leave the thinking till the morning..if he has any sense he will have a good think too..if not..well, that's another thread!

Oh and Good Luck, whatever happens!!

There was also a big telly. He asked before if I wanted it upstairs in bedroom, I said no. Tonight it's installed on dressing table with all other stuff shoved aside. Plus dd2 has a big (whining) migraine. Actually it's not installed there any more - just unplugged it and put it in his office. Sadly small tv in bedroom now doesn't work for the news as he's unplugged aeriel etc and it's too high up to sort tonight.

Thanks by the way.

I hope you manage to get some sleep
And that you figure out what happens next

Maybe soon you can stop 'going mad in the country' :)

Look after yourself and your dc {hug}

Not to be lecturey but T.V's in bedrooms are not a great idea, sorry

Thanks. Really positive post! Just what I needed.

That was to Frida not Threadwatcher btw. Threadwatcher, thanks for your comments.

frida - her husband of 24 years has just walked out on her. I doubt she cares about the arguements for and against having a tv in the bedroom. Sheesh

Frida Honestly? You think that's the issue here? Bloody hell

Take care of yourself OP, Hope you manage some sleep.

I've been with mine for 25 years and sometimes secretly wish he'd do the same... not good, working on it etc, but do you feel relief or sadness or anger or fear or what?

Thanks all - think I'll try to get some sleep as I have to collect ds in the morning, plus cancel lunch with some friends (not really in the mood for a bunny emoticon).

He may very well turn up apologetic tomorrow morning. Will have to consider how I feel about that.

I really appreciate the late night ears to bend by the way. Thank you x.

More tea then bed.

I'm trying to say, try to get in touch with your emotions about this and it may help you deal with stuff tomorrow (that is if you haven't gone to bed already). This really is a biggie isn't it.

Here's a without the bunny ears I hope.

Jif, not sure. He did this once before about 4 years ago on holiday and I was quietly relieved, but it worked itself out. I sometimes think if it was just me I'd have moved on years ago, but we've got 4 children, and that really does make a difference to the family dynamic. I'd be fine - just not sure about dcs.