The Brave Babes Battle Bus - BOINGing Into Spring, The Jesus(WhatNext) Way!

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Hello, tis me, Mouse

I'm one of the Brave Babes aboard the Battle Bus, on the journey to sobriety.

We have drinkers, non-drinkers, inbetweeners, notquitesurers...... which is all fantastic.

No matter who you are or where you're at in your personal quest to get where you want to be, come grab a seat and join in the natter, just jump right in.

And, if you'd like to see where we've been up until now, HERE is a link to the last thread and the ones before it

See you soon.

Boing!

Went to sleep at 9.30 last night and feel lovely, fresh & hangover free today!!

Well bloody done to all those Babes who hung in there last night. Maybe it was the collective vibe that spurred everyone on.
msgee you truly avoided temptation with the bloody stuff sat on the table in front on you.

I have practically become a hermit since giving up just so I can avoid the social situations where I know I couldnt stop myself.

Morning all

Lovely to read last nights supportive posts. To any one who was lurking and didn't manage a sober evening- chin up! Today's another day, perhaps come here tonight.

One of AAs suggestions is to start each day asking for a sober day and end each day saying thank you. I rarely do that- I normally fall in to bed shattered and sober and bounce up in the morning without a thought! But since becoming more active on this thread I've gone to bed praying that all the BBs had a good evening and saying thank you for mine; when I wake up in the morning, I think of you all and say a prayer of gratitude for my sobriety.

Thank you!

Well done to all who resisted :)

I am facing the day with a hangover unfortunately. But today is a new day and I'm really going to try. Appointment with the addiction unit on Monday.

BOING!

well done everyone! impressive work on here last night.

msgee you're fab. watch your mum drink, watch her in the morning, really see her drinking, how it works, how it effects her etc. nothing to envy.

i am going to another meeting tonight. same time, different place and presumably some different faces and some of the same. we shall see. will be nice to go back, i'm actually looking forward to it

i find the 'just for today' text that i got in my welcome pack useful - don't know if it is somewhere online to link to so others could read it but it is really good for focussing on what we're aiming for. will have a search.

ok it's a copy and paste so don't blame me for spelling etc.

JUST FOR TODAY I will try to live through this day only, and not tackle all my problems at once.  I can do something for twelve hours that would appall me if I felt that I had to keep it up for a lifetime.

JUST FOR TODAY I will be happy.  This assumes to be true what Abraham Lincoln said, that "Most folks are as happy as they make up their minds to be."

JUST FOR TODAY I will adjust myself to what is, and not try to adjust everything to my own desires.  I will take my "luck" as it comes, and fit myself to it.

JUST FOR TODAY I will try to strengthen my mind.  I will study.  I will lean something useful.  I will not be a mental loafer.  I will read something that requires effort, thought and concentration.

JUST FOR TODAY I will exercise my soul in three ways: I will do somebody a good turn, and not get found out; if anybody knows of it, it will not count.  I will do at least two things I don't want to do - just for exercise.  I will not show anyone that my feelings are hurt; they may be hurt, but today I will not show it.

JUST FOR TODAY I will be agreeable.  I will look as well as I can, dress becomingly, keep my voice low, be courteous, criticize not one bit.  I won't find fault with anything, nor try to improve or regulate anybody but myself.

JUST FOR TODAYI will have a program.  I may not follow it exactly but I will have it.  I will save myself from two pests: hurry and indecision.

JUST FOR TODAYI will have a quiet half hour all by myself and relax.  During this half hour, sometime, I will try to get a better perspective on my life.

JUST FOR TODAY I will be unafraid.  Especially I will not be afraid to enjoy what is beautiful, and to believe that as I give to the world, so the world will give to me.

Boing

Well it's Friday .. I always drink on Friday .. after all it is the weekend!!

Today I am not having a drink..!

I am lying in bed without a hangover and DD is still fast asleep ..usually i make her come iwith me to delay having to get up and face the day..

Boing
Wow. No hangover. Slept well. Day 3.
Saf I'm going to copy the 'just for today' resolutions and print them out and keep them in my bag, they're great.
Have a great day everyone.

Great post saf .. i like the one about deciding to be happy x

i was wondering insinde. sorry you're poorly - doctors or see how it goes for a couple of days - danger being the weekend is here so maybe best to get to docs today and see if you need abs?

yes the happiness one gets to me too, and the fear.

i want to live with the milkwomen of human kindness - great name for a cult community.

Well I've just started the day with a shot of 45% proof alcohol...

Only 15ml of my herbal tinctures though.

Morning Boingy Babes! And good morning to the babes who aren't feeling the boing too.

saf what an amazing text. I feel like I should have that tatooed on my hands so I see it all the time. helpyourself that was a lovely post. isinde sending you virtual cough linctus and sympathy. Eat lots and lots of garlic - raw if you can bear it - it's a fantastic respiratory disinfectant. MsGee you sound great this morning!

I slept really well, which is something that rarely happens, but still woke up with a headache. Wanted to read and respond to this thread in peace in bed on the ipad before getting up, but couldn't connect to the internet so had to go downstairs, thus alerting DD to my wakeful state and commencing the avalanche of enthusiasm that is DD so now I'm here with her fidgeting, chatting incessantly, alternately strumming her guitar or listening to my ipod whilst humming tunelessly and jigging about, with regular breaks to roll around the bed wrestling with the dog.

No idea about what to do with boozageddon Friday evening. Today I might drink. DP will be drinking moderately. Any ideas babes?

if you can't eat raw garlic this is what i do - get about 3 cloves of garlic and grate them into a cup, add a load of fresh lemon juice and a spoon of honey and add boiling water - stir and drink. i keep then topping up the same concoction with more boiling water till i've managed to drink it all iyswim. garlic is a great antibiotic - good thinking!

my only idea would be not to drink i'm afraid mia - it's the only guarantee of not getting pissed isn't it? get in some lovely non alcoholic drinks and treats and start your evening with a lovely long soak in the bath and read of a book in peace and take it from there.

Great to hear everyone sounding so positive (& big hugs to those who aren't), even those waiting for the TFI Friday boose fest craving to kick in (Mia Kirsty et al).

One day at a time 'Peoples' (in Kath & Kim stylee) and like MsGee so valiantly managed last night, maybe even 10 minutes at a time.

(Marches up & down Gerald whipping up huge sing-a-long)

Well it's a boing :) from me, this morning at any rate!

I can't believe how busy it's been on here since last night, everyone supporting eachother and the positivity is infectious. It really does work doesn't it, to come here when the desire for booze seems overwhelming and to know that someone will be along to hold your hand and talk you slowly down. I'm promising to myself that the next time a craving floors me, the first thing I'll do is post on here so that it's out in the open.

At times like this it couldn't be clearer that alcohol has no place in my life and that I'm standing on the edge of a precipice every time I lift a glass. From the days aged 16 when I'd be passed out on a park bench waiting for my dad to pick me up from a night on the town, to just the day before yesterday (aged 54) when I drove drunk with my precious daughter sitting next to me, oblivious to the fact that I was a bottle down. Day 2 for me. And today I will not be drinking.

soma " I'm promising to myself that the next time a craving floors me, the first thing I'll do is post on here so that it's out in the open."

Yes yes yes! Do it! I would have been on the white by 5pm yesterday otherwise.

saf great recipe for getting the garlic down. You could grate some root ginger in there too - it's an expectorant (as is garlic), and is great for fevers, infections etc. ginger is also a good tonic pick-you-up. Lemon juice great for vit c boost, honey (esp manuka) good immune boost. I'm all for natural remedies (trained as a herbalist) so if anyone wants general herbal advice ever I'm happy to help. Having said that though I'd never recommend those instead of conventional medicines when they're needed. If it hurts to breathe - over and above the muscular pains you get after coughing so much - then go and get checked out by the gp.

Ok here's my plan. I think I'm not going to drink today or tomorrow (see what I did there - not quite committed myself yet ), but I will have a glass of red with our Sunday roast, as just really cannot comprehend having an awesome roast dinner without a glass of awesome red to go with.

BOING!!

well, what a boingy lot you are!

mia - what the fuck is so special about friday?
i ask as i used to think just like you do, its friday therefore i must be pissed to enjoy it it makes me so mad to now to think of the weekends that booze took from me, all the saturday mornings i spent feeling like death, stinking like a brewery, unable to enjoy the time with my lovley dd cos i thought i might puke up at any second, all the saturdays i dragged myself out of bed to take a car full of girls to ballet class and then sleep for that hour in the car when i could have gone and chatted with other mums/read a book/watched my dd
all the saturdays i dragged myself round the shops, heavy legged, eyes light sensitive, stomach heaving, when i could have enjoyed a few hours with my dd or dh just having a pleasant browse and a nice lunch with possibly the cinema in the evening, i couldnt do that of course because i had to top up the friday night levels then begin the whole sorry saga again on sunday morning,
staying in bed for as long as possible instead of getting up and going swimming with dd and dh, cooking lunch in a haze of merlot and then not being able to eat because i was too pissed, watching antique roadshow in the evening and not being able to recall it at work when someone asked me what i thought of a certain object - so, what the fuck is so special about friday? could it be that this friday could be really special? that you will break the miserable cycle of getting pissed and feeling ill? that this could be the friday you actually get to enjoy your family and your home? it could be!! you just have to want it enough!

i forgot the ginger! i knew i was missing something - the ginger is a key ingredient - thank you mia! i might even do this for myself today as i'm tail end of a cold with a bit of a yukky chest. mind you i will then stink of garlic so maybe i'll do it at the end of the day.

jesus i used to tolerate the cinema when i took ds by having a miniature bottle of wine or something stronger in my handbag. sweets for him and mummy treats for me

in my fresh headed boingy state i've just got round to sorting out the first stage of my photos - ds now has a baby album of his first six months. it's only taken me 5 years to do it. i'm alternating little jobs - bit of tidying up, bit of photo sorting, sit down and have a coffee and look on here, etc. hoping this pottering approach will accumulate. have been very, very lazy of late.

drinking makes me lazy and unproductive and totally demotivated. i need to learn new habits and confront those issues so i can have a smoother life me thinks.

oh and in looking at the photos of that tiny new born baby i have gotten in touch with my disgust of the fact that i was given a capful of drambui (sp) when i was less than 6 weeks old so that i'd go to sleep meaning the other kids would sleep and the adults could enjoy their new year's eve.

it does make you wonder what it does to a babies brain to stick alcohol in it so early and what the hell chance you had of being protected and carefully nurtured if your parents saw fit to dose you with whiskey a month after you were born.

Hello Darlinks

Anyone remember me from a week ago! so much to catch up on here, will have a good read through in a minute. For now, just wanted to say hello, I've missed you mwah, mwah.

Easter weekend went well, with what seemed like hundreds of people to feed each night. Dh enjoyed his lunch party, so many people who haven't seen each other for years, the noise level was deafening! Me, 3 glasses of champers at lunch and sober clearing up at the end of the day. Yaaay .

On Dh's actual Birthday the two of us went out for dinner and shared , yup you read it right! a bottle of wine, with a little bit left over.I can't quite believe it myself, thinking of previous Birthdays (anybodys ), but I seem to remember that last year I was sober on mine, as well. All thanks to you lot xxxxx

Sadly the night after I drank a bottle of wine at home, so no controlled status for me.

Dh has been off on hols all this week, and so we have been going out for long walks, and trying to persuade DC2 to come with us. I am (very annoyingly for him) trying to spend every second bit of time I can with Dc2 as he is off to the US for 3 months the week after he breaks up from uni, oh, did I mention that DC1 is going to Australia for a month in the summer, fantastic for them, and I am so happy that they are the confident and intrepid Dc's that they are, but I still can't quash that funny feeling in my midsection .

Anyway, hope i haven't hijacked, off for a catch up.
Much love my precious Babes xxxx

Forgot to say, Dh gone off fishing for the day, at the crack of dawn, and Dc still in bed!
Leaving me able to sloth around, reading my book, and coming on her catch up on the housework

Coming on here!!!

JWN have you morphed into me or just invaded my wine addled brain?!

You have just described my typical weekend for the last 15 years (both before & since DCs). I was either pissed, hungover or craving from Friday evening to Monday morning.

Who am I kidding, it's been like that 24/7 !

No more !!!