career vs relationship update

[impossiblesitu]

I went to the interview. Job is mine if I want it

Who wanted PMs??

It matters for your self-respect. You're surely not going to let someone get away with treating you like utter crap in public? Why take him back? Best case scenario is you get through another 3 weeks without another incident like the last one (so pleasant but ultimately pointless). Worst case is he tries to stick the boot in again. Why bother?

You're amazing. And right. Why is MN always right?

Because impossiblesitu we are The Hive. Between us we always get it right. :)

I´d buy yourself a much nicer necklace for a start.:)

Off topic, but as you asked, we were both working there and lived in the same wonderful 1920s appartements ... he was tall, dark and handsome and helped me with my bags. That was 10 years ago.

I have just put our two children to bed.

And he´s still fab. German though, not Belgian.

Oh I?m so sorry to read he?s been a total idiot. Goodness knows what he thought he was playing at but he?s played his cards and shown himself to be pretty unpleasant ? and I think you have escaped a year of him wearing you down mentally.

I lurked on both your threads and was thrilled to see you?d chosen the job (clever you and absolutely the right choice).

If it is any consolation I got dumped by an idiot (and also relatively new) boyfriend 10 days after starting my new job in Brussels (way back in the mists of time ? about 10 years ago). Then and now I really wish he'd had the decency and sense either to break up before I went. It wasn't the end of the world but it cast a shadow that I didn't need. Much, much better to get all that out of the way now and head off with a song in your heart for all the interesting and enjoyable times you will have coming your way in the year ahead.

Ah, I was about to post and see that you?ve gone for a chat?.

For what it is worth ? if this man is causing this much friction now over you moving to your brilliant (and it is) new job he is not going to be any better when you are based over there in Brussels. And I think you will have much more peace of mind and mental freshness to throw yourself into your new job and your new cities (I assume you?ll probably have to go to Strasbourg a lot too?) without having to placate him or alternately keep yourself braced in case he decides he can?t cope afterall and will dump you again. You don?t need the hassle and you do need to get every ounce out of the new job that you can.

Bit odd to be making phone calls from the loo. And to a random political bod.

Not that that excuses him, what a tosser.

He is not your "DP" he's your boyfriend.

Don't saddle yourself with him. He will no doubt try to explain it all away, he's had a tough year, now you're going, he worries you'll meet someone else, blah blah.

Got to say, your toilet call to a married man with kids to cheer you up on your birthday doesn't sound entirely innocent...

Whoopee! Congrats!! And rather a lot of

Boyfriend is a neurotic dickbrain. Shag him if you want to over the next three weeks, but delete his details the day you catch your flight. You really don't need to be nursing anyone's neuroses just as you stride forwards into a beautiful Brussels sunset.

Look, your innocent phone call wasn't that innocent. You'll find a glorious, fascinating, multinational array of unattached men to play with in Belgium. Have fun and leave out the emotional calls to other women's partners :)

It was entirely innocent. Please do not assume otherwise. He doesn't have a partner, they have separated, but really I am no home wrecker and the person involved is a friend. Please do not make such assumptions because they are simply untrue.

Sorry for hurting your feelings. If you sneak away from your boyfriend to have a five-minute conversation with somebody else while you're feeling emotional, something's wrong. If the person you ring is a man from your professional circle (not one of the nine friends who cancelled, for instance) there is some reason for choosing him.

But this thread isn't about that
It's about fully accepting that you are now on your launch pad - and celebrating that fact! While stick-in-the-mud, clingy, soon-to-ex boyfriend stamps his little feet in the background. Look, he's becoming a small dot in the distance ...

thanks. I wanted to speak to someone who wasnt part of our circle of friends who I felt had let me down a bit by (understandably) cancelling and I owed him a call about something anyway - there is NOTHING whatsoever more to this.

ok! :)

Well I hope you can come wine tasting with us lot after Easter aand give us the run down.... not that we are nosy and don't live SUCH an exciting expat life

Maybe not, but phoning married men you deal with professionally from the toilets when you're upset is something I'd knock on the head before you go off to Brussels.

It really doesn't look good.

Usual name. Would love to :)