career vs relationship update

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I went to the interview. Job is mine if I want it

Who wanted PMs??

In the interests of not sending hundreds of PMs and accidentally remessaging people etc...

The job is in Brussels, working as Chief of Staff/Press for a member of the European Parliament. I cannot wait! The salary is a jump from what I'm on, it's tax free, there are free language classes, the people are amazing and I love working in Parliaments (have spent past few years in Westminster).

Thanks for all support!

What a fantastic job! I don't know why, but I got the impression it was in the States, from your previous OP. I don't see why you couldn't both carry on a relationship between here and Brussels.

Just out of interest, why is it tax free? Lucky for you it is, but it just surprised me. That's an instant pay rise in itself, isn't it?

It is indeed. Just the way Europarl pays people. It sort of makes sense really - rather than giving it to tax it just giving a lump sum. But then, I seriously despise the concept of taxation.

He doesn't think it'll work.

His loss. He sounds a bit controlling about this tbh.

Congrats on the job. It would bore the pants off me, but you sound excited. I should imagine that it will be long hours but very rewarding.

I get tax free. If you work for parliament there's no point then handing back the tax they just gave you.

Well, it sounds great. I assume the concept of tax-free is because the staff are tax resident in so many different countries (potentially none, although I think Neil Kinnock's son has run into a spot of bother trying to pull that stunt) that it's simpler to pay the salary and have the workers declare it in the appropriate country/countries where they reside.

I had also imagined the job was much further away than Brussels. That seems like a perfectly doable commute for a new relationship and I think it may be just as well that he has shown his true colours early on. It sounds like a fantastic job and a brilliant opportunity for you and I'm so glad this has worked out!

Oh congratulations!! (I can't remember if I posted originally, but I was thinking of you and hoping it would all work out).

Brussels is one of the cities on my "list" of places I'd love to work!! A colleague worked in the Europarl system for a few years and LOVED it.

Enjoy!!

Well done

BTW, a normal bloke who didn't think the sun shined out of his cock would manage to put his jealousy to one side and make a relationship where you are only a short plane ride away work (or at least make a damn good try)

but hey-ho, he isn't up to the mark, is he

jettison the bloke and embrace the career (I bet you meet a lot of sexy French speaking hotties anyway, so clear the decks...)

Oh well done, job sounds fab! I cant believe its a problem with your bloke though, its only bloody Brussels!

Brussels?

Goodness. It's quicker to get to Brussels than from one side of London t'other on some days!

Good luck.

Yeah it's 2 hours and 8 minutes from St Pancras and we're currently based in the SE. To be honest my hopes are not high for this relationship. He is pessimistic and it's making me quite sad.

I just rang my new boss to confirm and start in 3 weeks!!!

Congratulations, sounds fab! I, too, thought it was in US. He does sound rubbish that he's pessimistic - neither my dh nor my bf before would have been like that at all at any stage of our relationship - so better to find out now how uncommitted to you he is. Worth splitting up now to get it out of the way, make a clean start (oh I sound harsh, I'm not like that at all!).

Congratulations, get stuck in with the language classes and meet someone absolutely fabulous over there!

And pessimism is a trait that stays with someone all of their life - you don't want any of that!

You should've said Brussels from the start, as it makes it even clearer that he's rubbish! Brussels to London is nothing fgs! know loads of people who've done that.

As for "he doesn't think it'll work" - - really hope you've already shown him the door!

Dump him! Why wait?

He is either not that into your or pathetic, or both. Not worth wasting any more time on either way.

Ha I love the decisiveness of MN.

He feels he's had enough to go through in past year without a girlfriend in another country now. I see his point. If it works, it works, if it doesn't, better to find out his capabilities/desire to try now not in 10 years.

OMG and if you are in the SE you could cut another hour off that by going from Ashford..... what a prat.

congrats btw, sounds like a fab job

Well done getting the job. I followed your other thread, but don't think I posted 'cos I was of the same mind as everyone else. Namely, go for the dream job. :)

hmmm, I worked in Brussels 20 years ago and even then (in almost pre-historic times ) there were lots of UK-Bxl relationships going on. I remember one of my friends managing to take a Haagen-Dazs icecream heart in a cool bag to her boyfriend in London for Valentine's Day before it melted!

ah he isn't a prat, he's pretty amazing in a lot of ways

a good shag ?

you can find another one of those

To be honest I have absolutely no interest in other men, flings, random shags at all. Perhaps weird given my age.

Not weird at all. But if he's still acting like you're somehow giving him more to "go through" by going away then he has a bad attitude IMO.

Congratulations, have a ball, like I said at the outset of your first post, take the job, and now so glad to see that you have.