DH watches porn upstairs in the middle of the day whilst the kids watch tv

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I have a long running issue with my husbands addiction to porn. He said he had stopped. I checked his laptop last night (he was out) and he has been on Cam4 again but this time it was at 2oclock in the afternoon. I was at carboot and the children were watching a dvd on the telly. I am fucking furious and he slept on the sofa but tried to justify it saying that he knew the kids were down stairs and whats the harm.

Our children have not witnessed any stuff on the computer but I feel he has crossed yet another line. I told him we are seperating. Just after some more opinions on this particular incident. I have name changed. I will be dipping in and out have a friend over soon.
TIA

Please do something, OP.

I taught a boy in year 1 who had been exposed to porn at home. He exhibited inappropriate behaviour and had to have therapy. His mother had to admit that her son had seen this stuff and had to deal with child protection investigations. It can have massive implications if he's doing it with the children in the house.

Hope you are ok OP

Thanks madabouthotchoc Yes we went away for the weekend, it was booked 6 months ago and I could not let my children down they were so excited. It was great to see them happy but I am miserable. My mother and father in law did some surprise diy around our house so we found it when we got back, fil kept saying how important it is to have family time they are so lovely I think they know we are not right and are doing anything to give us some space.

I feel as though I am making a fuss about nothing, we have the perfect set up to the outside world and I have to just grit my teeth and go along with this. I feel like he has stolen my life. We moved 8 months ago for his job and I gave up my 2 days a week job. Now I am jobless in a new area and feel like I have no way out and if I do try and leave I will just upset everyone.

But if you stay without those safe boundaries you will upset you, possibly your DCs and definitely place them at risk from the content your H is watching.

I know it is so difficult. but it looks like actually threatening to leave, maybe actually doing it is the only thing that will get through to your OH.

Really feel for you OP. What a rubbish situation to be in.

OP, you know this is very common, love

You have been manoevred into a position where you feel you have no choice but to go along with life as your husband wishes it to be

you don't have to

it isn't compulsory

you could start telling people, and get some support

don't keep his secrets for him....they are your prison

you have free will, we all do

You do sound trapped and miserable

The reality is that you are free to do what you feel is best for you and the DC. They will pick up on your unhappiness the longer this goes on.

Its very hard knowing what to do next - in your position I would start confiding in one or two people, the more real life support you have, the stronger you will feel.

Then I would visit CAB and solicitor to find out about finances, benefits etc should you decide to separate so that you know where you stand.

Please do not do nothing - that's the worse thing you can do.

I also remember your threads.

Your inlaws think the sun shines out of his cock. So I dont think you will get them on your side by telling them, at least, dont take it for granted. I still think you should tell them the reason why you are kicking him out, so that he cant lie his way out of this one too.

Do they still give him money for the kids, that he spends on porn?

Believe me, you and the kids will be better off when you have kicked him out.

See a solicitor about your rights asap.