Aibu

[Machasma]

I am I'll. I had to get up with baby in the night and at 6am. Oh will not get up. I'm feeling terrible and he is in bed with a hangover! He is so very very selfish. And his main excuse is he works a hard job. Hate him right now!

Don't blame you! I would too.
Don't suppose you'll be feeling anything like sex for the forseeable future either. What goes around comes around, eh?

What would happen if you cleaned up, let him sleep and when he wakes up, hand him the baby and say ?Your turn??

I hate him too

I'm just completely speechless at the lack of care and compassion towards me. He clearly couldn't care less.

Is he always so selfish ?

TBH, I'd say getting drunk and having a little baby is not on.

And even less when your partner is ill.

He has a hangover monday morning? His job can't be that hard, then.

I had this yesterday. Begged DH in the night ( Saturday night) to take dd for a couple of hours. He wouldn't. He said he goes to work, I wanted a baby bla bla bla.

Had a massive row yesterday, he told me he is basically just waiting it out until the kids are grown then we are finished. I said why wait, let's finish it now. Then we had relatives round and he kept trying to cuddle me, put his arm around me etc. I feel he has glossed over the row and I am still boiling with rage inside. My two beautiful children. He is so ungrateful for them, always makes out its me who wanted them so it's me who will do the hard and horrible bits. Grrrrrrrr!

wretched, I agree that he should leave now, not drag out this deeply flawed relationship

does he think you have no self respect at all ? That you would meekly wait until the kids are grown and he fucks off ?

kick him out and let him feel the chill wind of being McDonald's daddy for a while

perhaps then he will STFU with the threats designed to put you in your box

McDonald's daddy.... Ahh thank you anyfucker I have been looking for a suitable nickname for my ex.....

Oh wretched that's so unkind. Hugs x

My oh is a fantastic dad. And since he has got up has looked after lo....he is being nice and helpful now.

I just can't believe that when he came down for a drink and I was crying he just went back to bed....

if he is only a "fantastic dad" when it suits him, he is very far from fantastic

all better now, machasmo ? Everything is fine now ?

'til the next time you need a teensy bit of support from him...

I told him yesterday he is not the man I know, not the man I chose to have my babies with. He used to be so good. This time around, the baby stage is so annoying to him, he gets so uptight about being asked to help at all. I'm frightened to ask. It's a sign of weakness to him. He wasn't like this last time, or I would never have wanted another baby with him.

I will walk if this carries on. He thinks I won't. But the sad thing is I think he would be relieved. So sad for my girls. He calls me a scrubber if I fight back. He says he won't be " put on". I asked for ONE nights sleep dd2 is ten weeks old and he has had a full nights sleep every night!

you calls you a "scrubber" ?

that is shockingly unacceptable

what a poor partner and father he sounds

Machasma mine is a brilliant dad to dd1 he delights in everyone knowing the fact. He doesn't like me when I am weak and vulnerable so he doesn't like me when I have a newborn I think. He hated it when I was pregnant as well. Tosser.

he calls you, sorry

I was just so shocked that he would do that

men who call the mother of their children a scrubber are not good dads

men who make the mother of their children feel so worthless that they cry in the night, then ignore them are not good dads

fgs, listen to yourselves

men who make their partner feel like shit when they are pg, newly given birth are inadequate fuckwits with an ego problem

His favourite thing to do is to mutter things under his breath and look over to see if I've heard. Then I will goin to a frenzy. Yesterday I threw a piece of toast at him and he told me I was a scrubber for fighting (erm throwing toast?) with dd2 in my arms. But he does this technique all the time to rile me into hysteria. I ended up sat sobbing just as guests were due to arrive.

women who mae excuses for men lie this are mmisguided and you do yourself no favours, no your children for bringing them up in such a fucked-up atmosphere

daddy calls mummy a scrubber when she won't STFU

that is not a good dad, and I would hate to think a boy would grow up to do that (because he copies daddy) or a girl accepts it in her own life (because mummy did)

oh ffs

< flounces >

This is awful

You have just had a baby, you do not deserve this treatment.

Good husbands and good dads do not treat their partners like this.

You deserve to be loved and cared for.

He is choosing when to be "nice" to you OP? That is not on.

He knows I am deeply upset. Can't quite believe he is so resentful of dd2. She was quite premature and we have been so worried about her. He wants me to do everything. And complains I don't do enough! But I mustn't complain because I "went on and on about having another one".

ooh flouncing, so early on in the week AF [grins]

Sorry Machasma have totally hijacked your thread.

GRIN dammit GRIN