Ok, ive had a lot of advice from friends and family but need people that dont know me to give me there opinions
Ive been with my husband 11 years, married for 7 we have two dc and separate dds my dd called him dad as his been in her life since she was 2. ive always thought id be with him forever even though ive never really been IN love with him but over the last 3-4 years things have changed. he became moody stressy stroppy would swear a lot was very nasty to my dd, (actually his always been horrible to her) i would stick up for her as she is mine and we would row, he would then tell her off and tell her if me and him ever split up it would be her fault!
Anyway about 3 years id had enough i asked him to move out which he did but he hounded me everyday for 3 weeks begging me to take him back, i wasnt ready but for a quite life i did it, he had anger management and councelling which worked for a while but was never perfect. his never liked my familly espically my father so would slag him off to my face all the time which was awful and upsetting. he is so angry all the time swears shouts moans at the children (never me) starts on my dd in the morning, then when he would come home from work if the hall light was on he would go mad if the toys werent put away he'd go mad, wouldnt have much to do with the children id bath them put them to bed unless i asked him to do it.
Anyway to cut a long story short ive become very down over the last 2 years grinned and beared it for the sake of the children kind of "you made your bed you lie in it". I stopped loving him a very long time ago i began to not want to kiss him, cuddle him, and have sex with him. I always thought something was wrong with me because i never wanted sex really. anyway ive started noticing other men, espically this one person at work, nothing happened i didnt cheat but we got chatting and i told him how i felt about my husband, he said he could tell i wasnt happy,(as did other people) we became good friends and i began to have a lot of feelings for this person as did, did he. I told my husband 8 weeks ago i didnt love him anymore he refuesed to leave but after a week he went. i am now seeing this other person and other than constant harassment from my husband ive never been so happy in my whole life, ive also found this sex drive ive never had. my husband refuses to let go he will not leave me alone begging harrassing, being nasty im a bad mother, im a cheat, im a liar etc. Telling the children all kinds of things, driving around looking for me while they are in the car. he told mt eldest 13 im Shagging someone else, while the others where in the back of the car. he has been saying alsorts.
he doesnt know about this other person yet but someone sent him an annomus email saying ask me about this person which ive denied as i dont want him to know just yet and i never cheated anyway.
He is desparte for another chance but ive been consistant in saying no as i dont love him anymore and dont believe he can change, am i doing the right thing or should i try again?
Sorry its so long just really need some help as im at the end of my tether
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Am i in the wrong for not giving him another chance
jaynel · 18/03/2012 14:58
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