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I think I love him

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first1 · 15/03/2012 08:57

That's nuts right? I've only been with this guy for 7/8 weeks ffs. He's just left mine to go to work and I got a bit sad (I hid it well) that he was leaving. He's just text saying "hated saying goodbye baby, can I come over again tonight? I'll cook". I know it's crazy but I really think I'm in love with this guy but I don't know why to do about it, I don't want to freak him out. Think I've just answered my own question haven't I? Just shut up! :-(

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WinkyWinkola · 15/03/2012 20:08

What a lovely lovely thread.

Tis love but absolutely no need to blurt out anything to that effect for a good while yet.

Just revel in your happiness, op. Great to read.

4lovelychildren · 15/03/2012 20:10

I loved my DH after a few dates! Engaged within 4 months, married after 9 months,bwithin 3 years of meeting we had 2 children still together years later and love each other more than ever!

Feellikerubbish · 15/03/2012 21:27

What about feeling these feelings you all have for someone who also feels the same way back. But I already have dp and 2 kids and can't bare to take them away and split the family. Dp is great but don't love him anymore. OM is not as great but I love him. Sorry for bringing a sad message on here! Met OM, after meeting up a few times, he said he loved me and that I'm the one. He was willing to do anything for me but I chose to stay with dp for my kids sake. Still missing OM and feel so unhappy all the time :(

WinkyWinkola · 16/03/2012 07:35

Feellikerubbish, then it's time you split from your oh. But don't plunge straight into bed with someone else

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first1 · 16/03/2012 08:25

aw thanks everyone! Its so exciting to hear so many lovely stories instead of the doom and gloom of bad relationships.
Update!!: So he ditched the footy for me (I know!) and we had a lovely lovely evening together. He asked me (and quite nervously, I think he was concerned I'd be freaked out planning ahead) if I'd like to go with him to his friend's wedding in Devon...in August! So 5 months away and he hopes we'll still be together. Good sign yes?!?

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janelikesjam · 16/03/2012 08:48

Agree with others, enjoy , though still have a slight agreement with Pictish to be maybe a little careful. But thats only if there are zero red flags (is there such a thing?)

Mainly though I am thinking what a wonderful thread of love and security found. Very moving and positive. Though I have never found anything approaching that myself, but still makes lovely reading.

lazarusb · 16/03/2012 09:50

first That is a great sign As others have said, don't go buying a wedding dress just yet but enjoy it. There are few experiences more wonderful than falling in love and (I know this sounds weird) I think I have fallen for dh several times over in the time we have been together. It just gets better.

WineGoggles · 16/03/2012 10:25

Love is great isn't it :o I was friends with my DP for a year before we started dating and I always knew I liked him, but not sure he was boyfriend material as he wasn?t the usual macho type I go for. But I?d been saying to myself that those types, although they get my ovaries twitching, are not suitable for me and I should use my head more. So he came round to my place (the first time we?d ever seen each other on a one to one basis) and it felt OK. Normally I can?t move someone from the friends zone to the lovers zone, and he didn?t exactly ooze sex, but we shared a kiss and I thought ?OK, this is good?. So the next time he visited I?d decided I had to check our sexual compatibility ASAP in case it was awful, but it was really good! It took a while for me to feel as though I loved him as I wasn?t 100% open to dating I suppose, but now, 9 months later (which is very good for me!), I think he?s the best man in the world. If there is such thing as Mr Right he?s mine, and jeez did I have to kiss a lot of frogs before I found him!

clintwestwood · 16/03/2012 16:04

Don't get too carried away with him saying he'll miss the Man Utd game...he may be a Man City fan.

therumoursaretrue · 16/03/2012 19:46

lazarusb I know exactly what you mean, it's not weird at all. Or maybe we are both weird :o
I have definitely fallen in love with DP more than once. We have had quite a rough time in terms of outside factors, things that definitely caused strain at times (illness, long-distance, more illness the list goes on). The best bit is realising that you still love them after everything, and even that you love them more for it!

OP I am very excited on your behalf that he has asked you to go to his friends wedding. Lovely that he is thinking about you in the long-term! I really do wish you the best :o

susiedaisy · 16/03/2012 19:51

clint

lazarusb · 18/03/2012 19:21

therumoursaretrue Glad it's not just me. In our case I would say the external problems definitely made us stronger

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first1 · 19/03/2012 16:38

Ffs what's wrong with me ladies I need a slap. Spent the whole weekend together right up to 7.30 this morning when we walked to the station together to go to work, and I'm seeing him tomorrow. But I fracking miss him already!! (teenage emoticon)

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molly3478 · 19/03/2012 16:42

We were engaged after 10 weeks and have now been married 8 years.

KatieScarlett2833 · 19/03/2012 17:09

He asked me to marry him after 3 weeks. Actually got married 10 months after meeting him.

18 years later, still love the bones of him.

We had to move in together as neither of us could get any sleep apart.....

Aww, enjoy!

rubmeup · 19/03/2012 17:15

cut him loose he's a wrong un

CheesyWellingtons · 19/03/2012 18:15

Awwww . Sounds like love on both sides to me.

HepHep · 19/03/2012 18:18

Katie, that actually made me well up . How lovely for you :)

PurpleBlue · 19/03/2012 18:25

leave the bastard!

oops sorry wrong thread!

kidding aside Op I remember well this lovely feeling, had it after I met my now dh after about two dates, everything just clicked into place. I was going crazy trying to work out how to tell him withouth scaring him off but he came out with it first I could have flown to the moon

We got married last August

lazarusb · 19/03/2012 18:34

That's lovely. I miss dh during the day when we are apart. We've been together 17 years (yesterday) and are still sickeningly in love. Sometimes I just ache for him.

(If you knew me you would be very, very shocked at all that - hard as nails, that's me!)

janelikesjam · 19/03/2012 18:37

wonderful thread, really is, bit it never happened to me. but so glad its out there in life

KatieScarlett2833 · 19/03/2012 18:40

me too lazausb

The lurve is something I only speak of on MN...

(and to DH, obvs)

(and the DC's)

hehehe

lazarusb · 20/03/2012 09:59

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first1 · 29/03/2012 15:34

Well we've had a chat noone has said the L word yet but we've both agreed we're really happy, he said I'm a really great part of his life and is looking forward to showing me off to all his extended family at a wedding in August. He's asked to take me and dd for a day trip to chessington at the weekend, he's fab with her but its so lovely he wants to make an effort. It's only been 9 weeks so can't complain too much!

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Lovingfreedom · 29/03/2012 15:39

Enjoy it while it lasts....and if it lasts forever well...even better! You just have to wait and see what happens. Have a good time and look after yourself. (don't stop seeing your friends or you'll regret that however good your relationship is!)

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