Just want a bit of advice really.
Quick background - me and DP have a dd of 17 months. Our relationship had problems before I got pregnant, and since our dd came along we've barely had a relationship, separate beds for the last year, no sex since dd was conceived, he's a self-employed workaholic, we spend no time together, eat tea in different rooms now etc. Basically our relationship has totally broken down due to my resentment towards him.
Anyway, to cut a long story short, 2 weeks ago I told him I no longer love him, cannot love him as too many patronizing and belittling things have been said, I can't deal with the lack of support with dd and no help at home, no sex life, no social life, we just basically have no relationship at all, we are two flatmates with a dd. When I told him he wasn't surprised at all and told me I had to decide what to do, that he hadn't made the decision, it was up to me and to get back to him when I'd decided.
This is the bit I don't understand - since that evening 2 weeks ago he is acting like the conversation never happened, he's chirpy, being nicer to me, like he's not bothered at all. Perhaps he is relieved? I let things lie for a week and then asked him to talk a week ago - he got defensive and refused saying I'd said all I needed to say and we can talk another time. It has now been 2 weeks. He hasn't brought it up at all, he's not acting moodily or angrily or upset or anything. He is acting totally normal. I need to discuss things further, financial things, dd things, the practicalities. But if he won't acknowledge what needs to happen then what do I do?
Surely, if someone you were with told you they didn't love you anymore you wouldn't carry on as things were before would you?
I'm just bloody confused!! Can anyone shed any light? For the record, we have a huge communication problem - ie, he gets very defensive if I try to talk about relationship things, everything always gets swept under the carpet.