Active discussions

Meet the Other Phone. Flexible and made to last.

Meet the Other Phone.
Flexible and made to last.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Talk
Relationships

Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. If you need help urgently or expert advice, please see our domestic violence webguide and/or relationships webguide. Many Mumsnetters experiencing domestic abuse have found this thread helpful: Listen up, everybody

Original poster

I've managed to "horrify" my MIL............

29 replies

happydotcom · 10/03/2012 19:49

And my crime was getting flu and my DH did the night feed for our DS.

She then backed this up by Yelling down the phone to DH "Happy is bloody lucky to have married you. That's WOMENS work".

She's quite a volitile lady anyway but I feel so sad. I feel so ill and a bit PMTish.

DH said I should leave it ( he's used to her flying off the handle). WWYD?

OP posts:
LovesBeingWearingSkinnyJeans · 10/03/2012 19:51

Just laugh and tell her you'll be getting him to do them all now Grin

tutu100 · 10/03/2012 19:51

Ignore, she's nutty and it seems like your DH is used to it and isn't batting an eyelid. At least he's not agreeing with her.

nizlopi · 10/03/2012 19:53

I'd wind her up even more, to be honest.

MumbleMumm · 10/03/2012 19:53

I'd revel in the fact I was making her feel miserable - just by being me!
There's nothing you can do about your MIL though, so just try and make her as miserable as you can, and take joy from it :-D

The miserable old toad.

hellhasnofurylikeahungrywoman · 10/03/2012 19:54

Your DH is right. Her opinion isn't going to change. DH is man enough to know she's talking bollocks so leave it be.

Original poster
happydotcom · 10/03/2012 19:56

Mumble I will!

OP posts:
fluffiphlox · 10/03/2012 19:58

She sounds bonkers to me. It's what your DH thinks about that counts. Presumably it's his baby too :)

ANTagony · 10/03/2012 19:59

Hug your DH and let him know you appreciate his respect in sharing chores. Have a long bath, wrap up warm and get an early night.

Get well soon and focus on that, not the ramblings of a jelous women.

ahhhhhpushit · 10/03/2012 20:00

You should ask her what she thinks she's playing at having an opinion. Because only men are allowed opinions.

Original poster
happydotcom · 10/03/2012 20:03

DH thinks she's barking too............it's frustrating she's allowed to behave that way and get away with it.

OP posts:
KeepingAwayFromTheJoneses · 10/03/2012 20:07

That would be like a red rag to a bull to me and I would be spending all my idle moments thinking of new ways to horrify her.

RabidEchidna · 10/03/2012 20:10

She is a nutter, ignore her

Anniegetyourgun · 10/03/2012 20:12

DH is the wise one, he is getting some precious bonding time in with his DS.

Yeah, tell her DH is much better at dealing with messy nappies than you are so he does them all now

Daft old bat.

IAmBooyhoo · 10/03/2012 20:13

ooh i would have loads of fun with that. tell her you never wash a dish, you dont know how to work teh washing machine, you coldn't boil an egg if your life depended on it. go to town!! Grin

NarkedPuffin · 10/03/2012 20:17

Tell her the hard part was getting him to lactate.

ManicPanic · 10/03/2012 20:18

Ho ho ho! My dh did every single one of the night feeds with dd.

Yes, I know, I'll tell him to leave me... Wink

joanofarchitrave · 10/03/2012 20:19

Grin ahhhpushit

lesstalkmoreaction · 10/03/2012 20:27

My mil makes a point of always buying my dh a packet of dishwasher tabs as she feels sorry for him having to wash up as once I commented that the dishwasher needed to go on and there was still dishes to be washed so he did them by hand and since then whenever he visits her she magics up this packet of finish dishwasher tabs, I laugh now as its been going on 10 years. Slightly bizarre!!
I agree I would take great delight in winding her up and more fool her if she falls for it.

izzyizin · 10/03/2012 20:29

Are you lot a truly evil bunch or are you a bunch of truly evil minded ornery fuckers? Grin

LydiaWickham · 10/03/2012 20:33

I get a touch of this from MIL (DH not only fed DS a bottle at the 10:30pm feed every night, he also changed pooy nappies [shocked] Wink ), what works with her is: big smile and "yes, he's such a good daddy, you must be so proud he's so involved, DH is a real credit to you."

rubyrubyruby · 10/03/2012 20:35

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

startail · 10/03/2012 20:44

Make sure you always answer the phone and say,
Sorry DH is feeding, changing, dressing, the baby, ironing, cooking, washing up etc. even if infact he's watching the rugby with a can of lager. Grin

Tonksforthememories · 10/03/2012 20:54

After nearly 10 years my MIL is still Shock that DH cooks every sunday. Oh, and Christmas day.

Love that your DH is very blase about the whole thing, DH gets really worked up when MIL starts!

meredeux · 10/03/2012 21:04

My mum is like this and my SIL's approach seems to be of the wind her up as much as possible variety.

Personally, I would not aggravate the situation because you won't be able to change her (did you think you would??). If you try to annoy her, you'll only make things worse for yourself, MIL and your husband (plus your SIL who will have to endure years of hour long phone calls all about you).

My advice would be 1. ignore her and 2. don't let her find out too much detail about what is happening in your home

DartsAgain · 10/03/2012 21:08

What's with these MILs who seem to think it's all "women's work" when you're ill?

Both my dad and late FIL were happy to muck in and do stuff (cooking, cleaning, sorting kids out, etc) when my mum and MIL had times of illness. Even though they were working as well. Whatever wasn't important got left until later. And I'm talking 1960s/1970s.