I started a thread about a month ago, about my 19 year old DSD's relationship with her boyfriend. Well not much has changed TBH, I tried to talk to her, but TBH didn't push it too much as I didn't want to push her away and her to stop talking to me.
Yesterday she passed her driving test. Yay! 
So incredibly proud of her, after everything she's been through this is such a big positive achievement for her. She didn't tell anyone it was yesterday as she's already failed once about 3 weeks ago and she'd told everyone. She didn't even tell the boyf. It was early yesterday morning and when I'd gotten back from the school run she was waiting for me with the news. She'd already rang DH in work and he was chuffed and proud, as was I. Gave her a card and little present we had stashed away for when she passed (we knew she would eventually).
She had rang the boyf to tell him, he was in work. His reaction? TO have a go at her because she'd kept it from him! 
Then cut her off because he was in work in a really abrupt way. (Fair enough he was in work, but he could have said a quick "well done babe, I'm in work got to go but will ring you when I'm on my break"). She was gutted. 
Her grandad is giving her his car (lucky girl). So we were looking at price comparison sites as she's desperate to get insured and out on the road. We found the cheapest one but there was a £250 deposit which she doesn't have till payday. So she first rang her grandad to ask to borrow the money - he didn't have it, and then rang the boyf. She asked if she could borrow it, (he has it, earns 3 times what she does), and she'd be able to pay him back in 2 weeks (she's good on her word), she wanted to be able to go and pick him up from work. His response? She should stop being a spoilt brat and she can't always have everything as instantly as she wants.
Now I'll admit she was super hyper because she had just passed her test and she may have gone overboard in trying to persuade him to lend her the money. And if he didn't have it then fair enough, but he could have said it much more nicely to her, let her enjoy her high, and let her down gently. It was almost as if he was jealous (he can't drive) and couldn't stand that she could actually do something he can't, and of course she's going to be a lot more independent now. He just completely shit on her day. She ended up going to bed for about 5 hours as she felt so shit after the way he'd spoken to her. He eventually apologised to her last night and started crying on the phone to her. But again it was all about him.
The state she was in last night I haven't seen her like that in a very long time. It should have been one of the happiest days of her life and completely ruined it. 
I told her he was being an absolute fucking shit, and she knew and she said "Oh he's got a lot of making up to do now". But this is just something else to add to the list isn't it. It's emotional abuse. I can't doing anything about it except mop up her tears.
It's driving me nuts TBH. He's supposed to be staying over tonight. (Oh fucking joy ). I HAVE to stop myself saying something to him when he comes as it'll just fall back on DSD in some way. HOW can I support her and still stay sane? As right now I want to kick the little twat in the fucking nuts!