ExP wants to check/inspect my flat!!!

[spookysukie]

ExP and I have ongoing issue, amongst many, about DS sleeping arrangements because he sometimes sleeps in my bed and this is BAD in ExP's opinion.

My ExP does not believe me that I have bed in living room (its a sofabed) and DS (3.1) has his bed in his bedroom.

He called me a liar and says he looked through the window and there was no bed in the living room!

He says DS says there are 2 beds in his bedroom. He asked if someone could come round and check!

It sounds ridiculous and it is - but I scared he's gonna apply for residence and he's trying to use anything. espcially that he lives in huge house and I live in tiny flat. There's been other stuff too.

I feel this is beyond controlling and very intrusive. Who do you think?

I made a video BTW to show set up and to show that ExP is a

Tell him to get stuffed

Just say no

And if he doesn't stop harrassing you and looking through your windows, you will discuss his actions with police.

What an Idiot. He can do fuck all

Tell him to complain and then SS can inspect you.
NOT him!

Lueji why would she want to do that? Its nonsense, hes just trying to scare OP a bit. Stupid arse.

And OP has every right to call police if hes been snooping through the windows. He is then going to look very stupid

Becausr that would be calling his bluff.

Er he'd probably call SS if I gave him invitation to - he's too ignorant to give any thought to consequences

Don't give him a video. Don't give him the courtesy of a reply, other than the time-honoured brief one that ends in "off". How much furniture you have is NOTHING to do with him.

Of course if you're making DS sleep on bare boards he might have a point.

XH used to call me a liar too. It was just projection. He doesn't know what the truth is so he assumes I don't either.

no way - video not for him Annie.

That's all right then

tell him to fuck the fuck off, to the far side of Fuck and when he gets there to fuck off some more.

This lowlife can do NOTHING. He'd be laughed from here to kingdom come if he went near SS.

YOU know your boy is OK.

If fuck face were THAT concerned, perhaps he'd contribute more to ensure that you could rent somewhere bigger...

Repeat this over and over until he pisses off finally gets it:

You are an EX. I don't need to explain my movements to you or anyone else.

We can all see from a MILE off why you are no longer with this twat.

It's none of his business. Tell him this. You could also apply for a non-molestation order which means he is not allowed within 50 feet of your flat - you can have this without it interfering with contact between him and DS, you can arrange that to happen in a neutral location.

Remember that wanky little men like this do not have superpowers, and the only area in which a court will make you comply with any of their wishes is WRT allowing contact between a child and the child's father. You cannot be forced to have any kind of contact with this man yourself, and he has no right to spy on you, speak to you or be given information about your home. The only way to deal with a controlling wanker like this is to exercise the full weight of the law to lock him out. He's allowed contact with DC, he's allowed to email you WRT contact and that's all. If he does anything else you can put the phone down on him, ignore texts and irrelevant emails and shut the door in his face if he turns up uninvited. He doesn't matter.

I think if you're doing the nightshift, then it's up to you how you stage it.

Ex wants to snoop.

Oh Houdini I've just PMSL.

Riiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiight!

And the SS would do what in this situation? (if indeed it existed?) revoke a national policy of policy of putting families in temp B&B accommodation?

When he "says" things, is it verbal, text, email ....get it in writing - especially the peering through windows thing

I know of one person who got a court order that their DS wasn't to sleep in their father's bed, but that was only made because the father was 20+ stone in weight. She didn't get anywhere with stopping access or changing the residency arrangements. This is a non-issue, if he takes it further you can allow a SW or other "official" to inspect, nit your ex.

What SGB said. Just say no. Total idiot. Also agree with TG re get it in writing. Will provide you with endless laughs in the future - you'll look back and chucjle at his idiocy.

It's a pity that there are so many hysterical reactions to the OP - exhorting OP to respond in a totally inappropriate manner. People should try and take the sting out of disputes involving children, not fan the flames.

Shame on you.

Fortunately Collaborate I've ignored the text (yes its in writing) and don't intend to respond but I would know what I would like to say and its quite like what lots of others have suggested I say.

Where is the hysteria???????????! [baffled]

Colaborate? WTA???

This bloke has spied on her home and is threatening her, deliberately scaring her.

Telling him to Fuck Off is a STARTING point tbh. Who the F does he think he is?

He's got NOTHING! HE is creating a dispute. He is threatening to allude to removing her child cos she lives in a smaller place than he does.

If he's so ffing concerned, why not give his bigger house to HER and HIS SON.

Glad I made you spooky!

Just ignore the arse spooky, your Ex can do NOTHING and he knows it.

Smile and nod. then tell him to fuck off

He's being a controlling arse. Let him report you to SS if that's what he's threatening to do. They'll laugh at him.