ExP wants to check/inspect my flat!!!

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ExP and I have ongoing issue, amongst many, about DS sleeping arrangements because he sometimes sleeps in my bed and this is BAD in ExP's opinion.

My ExP does not believe me that I have bed in living room (its a sofabed) and DS (3.1) has his bed in his bedroom.

He called me a liar and says he looked through the window and there was no bed in the living room!

He says DS says there are 2 beds in his bedroom. He asked if someone could come round and check!

It sounds ridiculous and it is - but I scared he's gonna apply for residence and he's trying to use anything. espcially that he lives in huge house and I live in tiny flat. There's been other stuff too.

I feel this is beyond controlling and very intrusive. Who do you think?

I made a video BTW to show set up and to show that ExP is a

Ah the old "I'm going to apply for a rsidency order" chestnut!

Why do all control freaks think they'll get it??
Tell your EX that you'll apply for one if he doesn't stop harrassing you!

the best way to respond to this ridiculous demand is to simply treat it like the joke it is

The one thing he can't take away from you is your dignity. I'm glad you're just going to ignore his text. Speak to him politely but firmly and explain (once) why you're refusing his request. It sounds like he's full of hot air. You can't stop him applying to court for whatever he wants. What you can do is ensure that your conduct is beyond reproach.

You don't have to explain why you're refusing his request.

Simply refuse or just ignore and if he pushes it, say "I assumed you were joking".

Keep copies of his demands though, it may be useful in future to be able to prove what a total control-freak knob he is.

Hmmm what would the reaction be on here if a woman had the same concerns about sleeping arrangements at her ExP?

Can't see the issue is sending a pic to prove it!

He then has no reason to snoop OP remains the reasonable one and keeps the moral high ground.

But oh dear, whats wrong even with 2 beds in one room? OK, not palacial but if it were safe, clean, warm I would trust ExP to care for DS - not that it is 2 beds in one room and I have a video to prove it.

Nothing at all but he sounds like an arse and you should pick your battles,

No point getting het up over one that's easily won,

Nothing wrong at all.

I wouldn't give it another thought, no doubt there'll be something else (soon) that he'll be complaining about. If you want to get a second opinion you can ask a HV/SW to give one.
Personally, my DS slept in my bed until he started school at which point he was ready to move into his own bed. I don't see any issue either sharing a bed at this point, or having two beds in the same room. Hope your sofabed is a decent one, they can give you a bad back :)

Silly idiot. Just don't get into discussing it but certainly don't give in to his demands. If this he'll step it up a level and your DS will get caught in the middle.

Just for info, a male friend of mine regularly has his 9 yr old daughter to stay in his bedsit. She had her own permanent bed. ExW claimed this was unacceptable. Court disagreed.

Agree your ExP will move on to complaining about something else soon. Meanwhile, just refuse to give this nonsense any time.

My DP's ex wanted to inspect our new home to make sure it was child friendly. The judge in court told her not to be rediculous and if she was happy for DP to look round her home then fine... bet you can guess the reply to that!!

What my point is that if he does take you to court then its going to go nowhere!