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would it bother you

49 replies

StarRose · 27/02/2012 21:40

if your DP text two other women on the 14th Feb to wish them 'Happy Valentines Day x'

I'm feeling a little funny about it but don't know if I'm just over reacting.

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OnlyWantsOne · 27/02/2012 21:42

Depends if he wished it to me too and perhaps bought me a card and flowers.

Also, depends what his relationship is like with the other women and who they are. If its his mum and his sister then no, would think him odd but I wouldnt mind Wink

Depends what your relationship is like as a whole but if YOU aren't comfortable with it, then talk to your DH.

is odd of him. I thinks.

niknakpaddywhack · 27/02/2012 21:43

Unless it was to his mom/sister/dd in a friendly way then, yes it would bother me.

blushingcrow · 27/02/2012 21:43

I never read my dps texts so I wouldn't know if he had.

pictish · 27/02/2012 21:43

Depends who they're to.

madonnawhore · 27/02/2012 21:43

Unless it was his mum and his DD I would think it was inappropriate and get pissed off. Yes it would bother me.

Hassled · 27/02/2012 21:44

I'd think it was bloody odd, I have to say.
Who are the women?

TheBlackberrySet · 27/02/2012 21:44

like niknak said.

EdithWeston · 27/02/2012 21:46

It would bother me enormously unless I was sure they were non-romantic or joke texts to recipients I knew (eg family).

AKissIsNotAContract · 27/02/2012 21:47

It would bother me too, especially if it was his mum!

Bohica · 27/02/2012 21:48

Who are they?

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StarRose · 27/02/2012 21:52

They're friends, one I think he knows more than the other. One replied something along the lines of yeah you too, the other mentioned my name and hoped he was spoiling me. Does feel a bit odd.

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madonnawhore · 27/02/2012 21:55

I'd call this 'fishing to see who bites'.

squeakytoy · 27/02/2012 21:56

that all sounds innocent and wouldnt bother me..

DialsMavis · 27/02/2012 21:56

It sounds like they thought it was odd too Smile

madonnawhore · 27/02/2012 21:58

How do you know he sent those texts?

EdithWeston · 27/02/2012 21:59

Were you actively checking his texts, or looking at his phone for some other random reason?

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StarRose · 27/02/2012 22:02

Hmm that's a good way of putting it. They both brushed him off, but I have seen texts in the past where he's offered to help someone get to sleep after watching a scary film (again no response) and one where they were both flirting, with him offering her a massage and more. I confronted him about the latter and he promised not to do anything like it again (we were on a 'break' at the time). I think he likes to have his ego fed even if he's not actually going to act on it. But I think that's why I checked his phone, there's a little bit of doubt there even though he swears he never has and never will cheat.

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Bohica · 27/02/2012 22:03

I think there is something else going on otherwise you wouldn't have checked his phone.

Popoozle · 27/02/2012 22:04

I was wondering the same as EdithWeston to be honest. Were you checking his phone because you have other reasons to be suspicious?

Popoozle · 27/02/2012 22:04

x-posts.

Bohica · 27/02/2012 22:05

x post.

He sounds needy, how old is he? and how old are you whilst I'm asking?

ImperialBlether · 27/02/2012 22:05

It sounds all one-sided to me, though I appreciate that's not reassuring. I agree with the poster who said he's fishing.

Tell us more about him, OP.

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StarRose · 27/02/2012 22:08

He can be very needy and very jealous.

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madonnawhore · 27/02/2012 22:12

Does he know you saw the texts? If so, what's his excuse?

It must be exhausting having to worry about him and never quite be sure what he's up to. Not sure I could be bothered to put up with that sort of shit for very long.

madonnawhore · 27/02/2012 22:12

And needy and jealous? Yaaawwwwwnnnn.

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