firstly dh dosnt speak with this parents and sister due to the fact of last year he has a ds of 5 by another woman and we used to have him every other weekend without fail one weekend he said to my ds back then 2.5 (and his son was 3.5)(i hate myself for saying this but) he told him to pull his trousers down for my ds to suck his w*lly we totally went balistic as dh was walking past bedroom at the time and heard it)
my ds was way too young to understand and cried to do and saying the words i want to suck X w*illy (oh my god im crying now as you dont know what its done to me) we probably made it worse at the time for reacting the way we did
anyway took other son home decided that that was the last as we couldnt even talk about the situation or even mention other son;s name really hurt and made us sick
every time his name was mentioned ds said about his w*illy and i think at the time really damaged him (and us) dh couldn't have baths or showers anymore with ds as he was saying it (and that was something soo personal) i did threaten to get social services involved but didnt follow through
big argument with mil & sil as sil was supposed to take my 2 children away for an easter break but mil had invited herself along and other son so as we decided to stop ds and other son seeing each other we had to stop ours going alothough it was their holiday
as mil said im not stopping taking other son she basically she didnt care about what happened and brushed it off with oh he'll come out of school with more sayings than that
so from that day hasnt spoke or bothered with us or the kids since now dh and me dont care about us but the kids you dont push the kids out do u?
NOBODY treats my kids in that way anyone agree?
but the thing is i dont speak to my parents either as a big fall out about my wedding basically i wanted a dream wedding in cuba she didnt pretend that she would loved to have been there but couldnt afford it she just said that if she had a millions pounds she wouldnt even go so that was a bit of a fall out and hasnt even bothered with the kids
then we had a break in in our home and all our money was stolen amoungst other things and she didnt even phone to see how things were also we had to cancel the wedding due to money stolen
so we got married back in december in the local registry office and both parents didnt even bother to turn up only grandparents were there
just wondering as we are emigrating to New Zealand this year in a few months and in the beginning everyone said oh bright ideas they wont go etc.... now that we have sold our house some people belive that we are going
but do we bother making up with parents on either side before we go as both sides havent bothered with the kids and dh and I both hate them for that
I have had a bad upbringing as df adpoted me when i was 3 so there was always arguing and abuse as a child for me and now that i have my own children (who i adore) cant help the fact in hating them for the upbringing i have had as to the stuff that used to go on as for physical and mental abuse i cant forget and forgive as to how can people be soooo cruel!!
im soo sorry for going on but you have most of the facts now and i was wondering if you could help me
i dont really want to make up but it is in the back of my mind should i or shouldnt i??