A troll is someone who comes on public forums with deliberately controversial or mischievous stories, hoping to shock/start an argument/get attention.
Ok - you wanted advice about parents ...
... if you'd said "I haven't spoken to my inlaws for ages, should I make up" and left it at that, I can guarantee that you would have been asked why.
As it is, of your own free will, you told us why ........ so of course people are going to respond to that. This is after all a PUBLIC forum, and on public forums there is never any guarantee that people will always agree with you.
You may have been offended by what was said, but the situation you described about SS was potentionally very SERIOUS you stupid woman, and if you had a glimmer of maturity within you, you would have realised that harsh though some replies may have been, people had still bothered enough to spend their time responsing to you - ultimately, because they cared not only about 2 very little children, but also about your whole family unit (you may recall I suggested you speak to a Health Visitor as an "impartial" advisor).
To strike out, "hoping" FFS (how nasty is that ??!!)that we "all have problems of some sort" and muttering about people here taking pleasure in other's problems is truly ungrateful and pathetic. Open your eyes and read the 1000s of messages here .... there are loads of people here with heartbreaking/worrying/frustrating/life destroying/life and death issues going on in their lives, and those people still take the time to offer sympathetic words of advice and support to others who have - by comparism - "trivial" problems.
Most mature adults appreciate that support and good advice doesn't always arrive wrapped up in satin and silk. Sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind .... that doesn't mean that people don't care.
Any thread which raises the potential of a child in distress or at risk etc. will be answered in a forthright manner. What did you expect telling us what you did ? ....... presumably, from your reaction, we were all supposed to say the inlaws were terribly wrong and how gracious you were in considering a reconciliation with them.
No - we don't know all the details. Derrrrr ..... errrr ..... no, of course we don't. We don't know you. All the replies you've had have been based on the selective details you've chosen to supply.
I am so very glad you are feeling better now ..... even though, in the same post you previously state "we" have made things worse ???!!!
Whatever ......
I feel sorry for the children involved here. There is NEVER any justifiable excuse for abandonning such a very young child, and especially not if there is the tiniest risk he may be being abused, or has been exposed to past inappropriateness (eg: porn left lying about).
You say you "can't help how you feel about SS" and you'd change it if you could. Well, FFS, bloody well take steps to seek help (both you and DH by the sounds of it) and bloody well change it then. Speak to Health Visitor, GP, Social Services etc. if you need any more confirmation that your reactions - as adults - to this are more than a little bit skewed. (And if they tell you that your reaction is perfectly natural and normal, come back here, tell us all about it and I'll apologise ............ guess that was a flying pig I just saw outside). They can arrange family counselling etc. and take the necessary steps regarding SS.
YOU have some big problems ....... coming here seeking justification isn't going to solve them unless you accept responsibility for yourself, your son and SS - yes, the devil's own spawn.
Then, when you've done that, and grown up a bit, you could then turn your attention to the parents and rebuilding relationships there.