I'd Rather be dead than have all this stress!!

[caija]

I am currently 5+2 weeks with dc3, to
My third partner, have had 3mc's n have a dd, nearly 11 and a ds, nearly 5. My ds is disabled, since my mum and dad have found out I'm pregnant this time, they have refused to talk to me or see the kids.....it's killing me, n stressing me out soo much my tummy is In agony. My mum told me today by text that she won't be seeing the kids and doesn't know how we can move on from this, I am devastated, can't stop crying, don't know what to do. My sister and my dad are not talking to me either, n I cannot deal with it. I have been with my Partner just two
Months, everything has went fast, we gt engaged etc, and found out last week bout the Baby, the only reason everything has went so fast is because I know now I've found my soul mate....but I can't cope not talking to my family n them shutting the kids out. Please help advise me.....has anyone else been in this position. I am 31 btw! So I am not some teenager that isn't capable :(

Yes we have had our problems but doesnt every relationship?

M0na... You were very lucky.

Mona the obvious difference is that you didn't already have children. Adults can do what they like, but introducing a new partner to your children is something that should be done gradually and once you are very, very sure that things are going to last.
I suspect that the OPs parents are worried about picking up the pieces if this all goes wrong as her previous relationships have.

Yes Mona - you are spectacularly missing the point. Your experience is actually irrelevant however heart warming.

I can quite understand why your parents are concerned too. You sound a little immature and have a lot on your plate already.

Surely, if he loves and respects you and is your soulmate, he'd want to give you plenty of time to physically and emotionally heal from the trauma of two miscarriages?

DP and I moved in together after 3 months and he asked for my Dad's permission a month later. Permission refused for the time being, bug two years later we're still going strong and surer than ever that we will, one day, make great parents. But again, like Mona, we only have ourselves to consider.

I can sort of understand your parent's point of view.
They also invest a lot emotionally, over your OHs, then your exs, and your children and your mcs.

In addition to their own issues.

I'd give them some time.

I would offer my kids support too, but I don't want my support with grandchildren and childcare to be taken for granted and find that I have little time to myself. Even grandparents need support and a break.

If you are not independent enough to cope with two children, without parents support, how will you achieve independence with three?

You will have a partner who works by night and sleeps during the day. I don't think he's going to be able to give you the support you'll need with three children.

Your parents are trying to demonstrate, in probably the only way they know how, the seriousness of the situ you are creating for yourself and your existing children.