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Feeling so irrationally angry at DP because of EVERYTHING he does

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IrritatedMary · 15/02/2012 22:42

We've just been to the cinema. I asked him to buy "cinema sweets" from asda as we normally do because it's cheaper. So later we get in the cinema and he pulls out two 4 packs of Daim bars and a BOX of maltesers. 2 of the Daim bars had already been eaten and when I pulled out another daim bar for myself and temporarily put it on my knee he took it and ate it. Apart from that, who the fuck sits there eating BARS in the cinema? It was ridiculous, far too much noise and faffing so I ended up saving them until after the film. I'm sat here thinking about it and I feel so, so angry. Everything he does annoys me.

*He told the doctor he had trouble "working" a normal asthma inhaler so the doctor gave him a children's "disk" inhaler. How can anyone NOT work a fucking inhaler?? Apparantly most children don't need these type and they're normally used by children with learning difficulties.

*He eats curry with a spoon.

*In bed he things he looks at me and grins, mouth open and tongue wagging from side to side - is this supposed to be sexy? because it makes me feel ill.

*He nags and nags and nags for sex and when I give in eventually so I can sleep he can't get it up anyway.

*Gaslighting. I start to turn the car left and he says "you're better off going left here." I say "err I am!" and he says "yes because I just pointed it out to you". No, I'd already started turning!! "but you wouldn't have if I hadn't told you the way"

I'm sat here seething. He makes me cross. Without even trying. He's embarrassing. I'm just ranting.

What I'm trying to ask is has anyone else ever suddenly started to get intensly irritated by their partners for no "solid" reason?

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SnapesMistress · 16/02/2012 22:17

Nothing wromg with the OP, I have felt the same about ex's and that was what told me to end the relationship. Much better for my blood pressure.

igetcrazytoo · 16/02/2012 22:52

I can get like this - its usually PMT, once god help me it was post natal depression, now I'm looking into the jaws of the peri menopause. I have learnt to bite my tongue. You can't see how irrational you are at the time - then later can't believe how you got steamed up over nothing!

if its not hormones (I do like to blame them at every opportunity), then you must either be a control freak, or he's just very, very, very, very annoying.

RickOShea · 17/02/2012 13:04

'*In bed he things he looks at me and grins, mouth open and tongue wagging from side to side'

:o Brilliant! I am going to try this tonight. I'll let you know how it goes. One thing - does he keep his teeth in when doing this?

mojitomania · 17/02/2012 13:51

Hi OP, not sure why so many are being nasty but hey ho this is mumsnet I guess.

I can also get like you but as with igetcrazytoo mine is due to PMS/Perimenopause. Once I start bleeding the sun comes out again. I also have a very understanding DP.

But if this isn't the case then you've gone off him (I'd have done this due to the begging for sex thing - yuck).

Time to probably cut him loose.

makemineamerlot · 17/02/2012 15:12

I once endured (for far too long, but that's another story) a relationship with someone who ate with his mouth open. I could literally see the contents of his mouth as he ate. I tried sitting at right angles to him at the table, so I didn't have to see it.
In time everything he did - everything - the way he spoke, walked, sat and breathed (really) - irritated me so much that I almost had a panic attack every time I spent more than five minutes in his company.
The writing was on the wall from the first shared meal but I kept trying to feel better about it all. Never did.
Lesson - if he gets on your nerves now, just you wait. Murders have been committed for less. Move on.

Petrean · 17/02/2012 16:22

You sound like you don't like each other.

SCan I just defend his use of a 'children's' inhaler though. I have been asthmatic since I was 6. I've therefore use inhalers for 28 years. I know how to use an inhaler. My ventolin is a bog standard push and spray inhaler but my preventative inhaler is a disk inhaler. The reason for this is it makes sure I get all my dose. Taking a ventolin inhaler isn't as straight forward as you think and many long term asthmatics do not take it properly and don't get the full dose.

BreakfastEpiphany · 21/02/2012 23:03

You've got 'the cringe', that tongue wagging thing - uggghh!! Of course you can't sleep with him! I sympathise. It's horrible when you cringe at them in bed. Then inhalers/cinema habits everything else is just an extension of that

Imagine if he read what you wrote! Would he want to stay either?

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