I think this board is causing a problem between myself and DH

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Recently I've found myself keeping distance between me and DH, and I've noticed feelings of insecurity reappearing when they've not been a problem for years and years. We're arguing a lot over minute things, and I have a strong feeling of needing to be assertive and defensive. Nothing DH had said or done had sparked this. In fact when I first confessed that I was feeling vaguely insecure he was great, because he knows what battles I've had with these feelings in the past. He broke down tonight after another argument and said he feels it's impossible to be good enough for me,I'm never satisfied and I don't listen.

We've agreed to try counselling.

Part of me wonders whether browsing through the catalogue of bastards on here has messed up my perceptions. I think it might have so backing away from this place is my plan, but I wonder what you guys think about this situation before I go? Is it possible that these threads have turned my subconscious into a prickly superbitch?

Right kens , very incisive unless you are aaargh ?

Thankyou aaargh.

Yes it must be annoying having to justify yourself , I cant imagine how you find yourself in that position.

Aaaaargh? Am I you? Are you me? I suppose mn could broadcast our IP's to get rid of this ridiculous assumption

Oh cheers ken.

Just read this thread out to DH and he's just said that even HE'S starting to think I'm a man.

I'm not a man.

Er calm down kens

You're not? I guess I'm not you and you're not me then. HA! That'll shut the haters up

I suppose mn could broadcast our IP's to get rid of this ridiculous assumption

Proxies are easy enough.

Anyhow Relationships is a depressing place if you're a man, due to the sheer number of arse-aholics represented. However as said upthread, this is because (mainly) women having relationship problems come here to post and actually there are lots of good relationships out there. Who knows, these most probably outweigh the bad.

This is a good place for advice, but I can imagine it might become rather draining if you're on it continuously.

gettingeasier (not for me it isn't) - justify myself wasn't what I meant.

Yes, I sometimes have to justify myself. What I mean is, if I post on here and people remember my relationships thread, they say 'Ay Aaaaargh, WTAF are you doing on here, you said it makes your blood boil' Ad infinitum. Hence the reason I will be namechanging.

Proxy will slow the connection down. Just take our words for it

Ken. What are you doing?

With your words I mean.

God.

Nothing. You?

Yes, Artex...I know that. Thanks.

Well, I don't 'know' you but you're speaking for 'us'?

And telling people I'm a man?

Hehe. Need a headache pill? Myriad apologies

If I were you and you were my, why would I be talking to you? I mean myself? Or myself talking to me? Isn't this proof enough?

Look up sockpuppets.

I know what they are. People think I'm you and you me and such. Sorry about the he, was an honest mistake

You sound very like someone called Russell.

And on that cryptic remark, I'll leave you to it.

Rest assured that's not my name

Personally I find that too much MN does make me overanalyse things between me and DH.
It makes me resentful of choices that I have made (pretty much alone) and it highlights things that taken in context are pretty bloody uninteresting.
It's easy to see that a relationship is DOOMED if a few key needs aren't being met, without seeing the relationship over decades and remembering that needs change and good people sit back every so often and fuck up ever so slightly occasionally.

And.....didn't read whole thread.

It's ok.

Anyways, this would be a lot of work changing proxies just to talk to myself. Are you convinced yet?