I think this board is causing a problem between myself and DH

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Recently I've found myself keeping distance between me and DH, and I've noticed feelings of insecurity reappearing when they've not been a problem for years and years. We're arguing a lot over minute things, and I have a strong feeling of needing to be assertive and defensive. Nothing DH had said or done had sparked this. In fact when I first confessed that I was feeling vaguely insecure he was great, because he knows what battles I've had with these feelings in the past. He broke down tonight after another argument and said he feels it's impossible to be good enough for me,I'm never satisfied and I don't listen.

We've agreed to try counselling.

Part of me wonders whether browsing through the catalogue of bastards on here has messed up my perceptions. I think it might have so backing away from this place is my plan, but I wonder what you guys think about this situation before I go? Is it possible that these threads have turned my subconscious into a prickly superbitch?

Well, an interesting range of responses.

I guess I posted because there's an element of doubt about whether these issues are the creation of my messed up head or are in fact a genuine thing. I don't think they are, but that seed is there (because perhaps MN is influencing me?).

Thanks for your views. I'll give some thought to what is going on in my head and just between DH and I.

Some of the advice it ott. Just as some of it is understated.

I don't see why that automatically equates to some sort of conspiracy of AE's.

OP, if you even suspect these boards are skewing your view on your relationship i'd say a time out is a must.

When you mix a lack of intelligence with bitterness and envy, you get some posters who don't have a clue

Like you kens?

Why the immaturity? We're not 6 years old on the playground

that's funny ken

what other tricks do you do ?

Ner ner, ne ner ner
I think old ken is a one trick pony AF.

mal, I think you may have underestimated ken

I think he can piss the highest up the wall

I don't even have to try when it comes to pissing the highest. I wrote the damn book. Do I detect envy AF?

yeah, I wish I could spout piss up a wall

deffo

OP, I often come away from the threads in this section feeling profoundly grateful for my relationship with DH. But I have to back off every now and then because it depresses me.

If you think this section is harming your real life, then you should give it a rest for a bit.

Don't mind us, were just bitter and jealous because we haven't got the almighty cock, not to mention being frigid old hags.

Theres such a predictable pattern with these jokers, don't you think AF?

Buy a she-we then AF and modify it :D

#Oh look. Another namechanger claiming the advice in relationships is ott and damages otherwise helathy relationships. Just like on aaargh's thread last week. And aaargh's here too! Amazing

If you're suggesting that I started this thread, then you're wrong, I didn't. But I'm not at all suprised that you may think I did, sadly predictable.

Will be namechanging v. soon to sidestep this kind of rubbish...and people wonder why I namechange.

aaarrghhhh next time you name change, perhaps you won't get involved in "this kind of rubbish"

or alternatively, keep your name and stick to your principles

it works for the rest of us

The rubbish I was talking about was people accusing me of being a sockpuppet.

People will automatically associate me with the relationships thread I started, and if there is another thread like this people will think it's me (for a short time probably, but still)!

Anyway, I have a much better name. No doubt you'll spot me

I've got my aaaaaargh scanner. bip bip bip beeeeep

I saw you on a Relationships thread the other day aaaaargh.

I am quite serious in asking why are you on these boards after your thread last week saying they "made your blood boil" ?

Because he wants to be here

he ?

do you know something we don't know ken ?

I've cut down significantly on reading this board actually, not that I was here obsessively anyway. There is one thread on here that is boiling my blood for a whole different reason, I'm literally sitting on my hands so I don't post on it.

I read a few threads on here, but not many now. Will be namechanging soon so I can post in peace (hopefully) without having to justify it.

Or a mitten