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So how do I cope with no sex life?

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CouldIDoIt · 29/01/2012 19:54

DH is lovely, a kind and loyal man, who sadly has no sex drive at all. He is on long term medication which has just shut him down. I have no intentions of leaving him, we have children from the days before things got this bad, tho even then were not great, and anyway I love him. I havent had sex for over a year, and for a year or so before that, and so on for at least 5 years now.

Last night I had an erotic dream about an ex and today I am just obsessed with the idea of contacting him in the hope of a fling. He was my partner before DH and we had a great sex life. Not a family man tho so we parted.

Just doesnt seem fair. I don't want to mess things up and hurt DH or the DCs. But the thought of no sex for the rest of my life is very depressing.

Theres no answer is there?

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LanaorAna1 · 25/02/2017 21:57

OP, I would loathe it if I had to 'make' a DP want me. How demoralising is that.

I really don't think anyone can withdraw sex in an otherwise good marriage long term and not be asking for trouble. Not fair dinkum. You and he need to talk and indicate how he can step things up - PIV is not the only way to sex.