I became pregnant at 24, 37 (miscarried) and again at 38 without any problem, but obviously don't know if I still have any time. For all I know I may have already missed the boat, but without trying how do I know for sure ?
It's a very difficult subject because we do have a lot of financial worries which would be compounded by another child and to have another would mean even more sacrifices (and our lifestyle is pared to the bone already). I think that all things considered, another child probably would put a great strain on things - not least our relationship - and I think DP is genuinely worried it'd be "too much", because inevitably we are already affected by the circumstances we live under (long long story, but both of us working our socks off, ships that pass in the night, no "me" time, let alone "us" time ... you get the picture).
So, from that point of view, I do accept he has a point and an understandable concern.
What I can't get my head around though is imagining us in a couple of years time - say - when DP will have hopefully found a better paid job, when we suddenly realise that yes, we could have afforded another, but by then it's too late. Even if it's not too late, the gap will have enlarged and also our childrearing years will have further stretched out IYKWIM, as opposed to doing it all at once.
It's very very difficult .... because I accept that to have one now would be a gamble - in the respect of hoping that things generally improve for us, but really do feel "it's now or never".
DP is well aware of the fertilty issues but I think is more laid back about it than me. It's such a hard thing to come to terms with ..... if we tried and nothing happened than so be it (I do after all have 1 child with him already and a teenager from a previous relationship so I know some people probably think I've been blessed already and should shut up) then I'd be disappointed but would take a "that's life" attitude. What I don't want though is to have my family size effectively decided for me.
When I was younger, I actually split up with someone after a couple of years when it became increasingly obvious we weren't thinking of the future the same way. I was in my early 30s then and had an eye on "the clock" then and realised if I wanted another child I had to free myself up to give myself the maximum opportunity of achieving that. But if you're already with someone and already have a child with them you don't think along the same lines ...... to leave DP in the hope that at my age I might meet someone else and have another child would be horrendous for all concerned and I doubt very much would happen. God no. I want another child with him, because he is my partner, because he's my daughter's father etc. .... all the normal reasons.
But I also know that without his agreement nothing's going to happen. It's very tough.