Feeling so low right now.

[separated]

Would love to be cheered up a bit.
Separated emotionally in December. Still both in house with our teenaged children. House was valued today ready to sell. Daughter at sleepover. Husband has taken son out for meal and cinema.
I am home alone. I do have friends but it was too late to arrange anything.
History of domestic violence so I know this split will be good for me but...
Please give me some encouragement. Thank you.

So sorry to read you are in this situation seperated, I am shure more will come along before to long & try to cheer you up, go over to chat & read how some MNers are selling themselves as if they were cars or houses, they made me laugh out loud & I am alone also.

It's going to be fine.

What about some lively music (better if you sing along badly), a nice bath, some new house/stuff browsing online, glass of wine? All of them?

Pamper evening - do your finger and toe nails?

Get yourself some trashy novels to read to have on standby next time you end up home alone and struggling, takes your mind off it.

Any series you may like to watch "Big Bang Theory" is really funny/clever buy the early seasons so you've always got something fun to watch?

It will be so much better 12 months down the line, you''ll wonder why you didn't do this sooner.

sounds like you need hope for the future and a friend for now, lonely

Won't bath as bath is on the top floor and I no longer go up there since he said it was over. Got Menieres disease which has caused deafness and tinnitus; so I don't feel like singing. I have intentionally not touched alcohol as it will lower my mood and possibly trigger a Menieres episode. Not going to have any money for new things...
Told you I was low. Sorry. X

like I said, you need hope

you're really suffering with everything, what do you want right now?

And how do I find that? Does it just take time?

Why don't you call a pal and have a chat?

Get onto Chat as Fatbellyfella said.

Some good fun ranty threads on there.

I would Stay off relationships tonight, or find a good comedy

You so deserve a better time than you are having,and need a close friend near you.do you have parents that could be a suport?

Companionship. To feel loved. We've only just separated but I've not experienced true love from a partner for years.

you're in the eye of the storm, just had the house valued, another wound, difficult to have hope, and suffering physically as well. Wishing you hope x

Not close to my dad and too close to my mum. I end up trying to make her feel better.
I'll be okay. Just hit a low patch. I've lost too much weight and haven't eaten normally for months. Ate normally tonight and gut is complaining. Sorry to moan.

to find the true love you have to endure this pain?

Let's hope so.

If it were possible to send you love by the power of MN you would drown in the love some of us feel for you in your loveless existence .
Is your husband that mean that he won't slow you up to take a bath?

Alow not slow

It's a 3 storey house. I have the main bedroom with an en suite. He moved onto the top floor 2 years ago after a particularly nasty argument and he was arrested. I just don't use the bathroom as he and the children use it.
Thanks everyone. X

However bad today is it's another day closer to things being better, it happens slow and gradual.

Are your children on your side of this breakdown with husband, will they be by your side when your house is sold to come with you.

Son wants to spend more of his time with me as husband is aggressive with him. Daughter is a people pleaser so she feels that she needs to be with both equally, but she actually would like to base herself with me.
I know i'll feel better soon. It's my 39th birthday in less than 2 weeks so I have a couple of meals out soon.

Let me wish you a Happy Birthday in advance .it's time for bed for me, was at work at 5 30 am this morning.

Thanks for buoying me up flatbellyfella.

Just think by your 40th you'll have a more active social life and be free from your soon to be ex