DS1 is ruining our relationship.

[yummicheddars]

I feel like I've been pushed to my limits, my DS1 is 2 and a half, he is testing us, tantrums, doesn't listen to a word we say, I am 27 weeks pregnant and we're meant to be getting married in july but we're being pushed apart. Just don't know what to do anymore, DS is making us argue constantly, he does everything he wants and if he doesn't he screams kicks and punches. Me and DP are both VERY down. I feel as though I'm making a terrible mum. DS is actually driving us both mad, we are young parents, 21 anyway, he works full time, I'm full time mum and full time paramedic student, so stress is high anyway. I cry everyday, as I write this infact. How do relationships cope through such 'spoilt' kids tantrums and moodiness?

My second son was a tantrumming nightmare (sp?), but once he acquired the necessary language to let me know what his frustrations were, his behaviour definitely improved. Also, I just used to leave him to it, as long as he wasn't hurting himself or anyone I would let him get it out of his system with the least amount of fuss from me (and I made sure I didn't give him lots of attention).

Don't give your 2 year old all the power in the relationship.

Decide on how you are going to deal with things with your partner and stick to it, and stick together.